When will you lose the baby weight?
A woman’s weight is no-one’s business – not even her partner’s – says Masanda Peter.
I was filled with disbelief and repulsion when a lady friend told me that her partner is putting her under pressure to lose the baby weight
. This is the woman who was carrying the baby for 9 full months and brought a healthy baby girl to this world. The nerve for the partner to put pressure on her is just beyond me.
How insensitive can this partner really be? It is not even a full year after the baby is born and this woman finds herself trying every diet
method she can find to lose the weight
as quickly as possible.
I am sure most women do not like to gain weight, although of course not every woman cares much about the weight. It’s all about the baby
In the first year, it should really be about the baby. Give the mothers a chance to enjoy motherhood no matter what size they are as long as they are happy mothers. The fact that the baby needs to be taken care of needs to be considered and is important.
If before she fell pregnant a woman was some Twiggy, that still gives the man no right to put pressure on her to go back to that size again. I have seen women heading for the gym soon after they get out of hospital, from the maternity ward straight to the gym.
To men who do this to their partners, would you rather have your partner sweating it out
at the gym or looking after your bundle of joy?
I really think that when you are ready, only then can you consider what to do to lose the weight if you want to lose it.
After I had my son I was a little in denial and shocked at my weight. I suddenly went from a size 28/30 to 34/36 and found this difficult to accept. I knew that this was not the weight I wanted and over time tried to do something about it – it’s a work in progress.
Having someone yapping about my weight would have killed me inside because I knew I was not happy with my size and knew that I was going to do something about it.Does a partner have the right to pressurise a woman to lose baby weight?
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