The return of the sexy breasts
I’m reclaiming my body and the pleasure it can give, says this mom of three.
I was lying in bed reading a romance novel. (Yes, it’s a filthy habit. Fun though!) When it suddenly hit me. The thought of a man touching my breasts excited me. Don’t say ‘Duh!’ This was quite an eye opener. I haven’t been interested in having my breasts fondled in ages. Well to be exact not since giving birth to my firstborn.
Sex as a parent sure is different. The romance writers don’t mention dropping your kids off at your parents’ house, just to go home for a hot and heavy session: ‘How long did your mom say she’ll look after them?’
Of course all the kids in these romance novels are sweet little angels that never get sick and they all go to bed on time, for the whole night. Read the sarcasm in that sentence. And I’ve never read a single book where the woman had to deal with the bodily changes of motherhood.
Nope, no leaking breast milk. Of course that milk comes out body temperature, so you only realise you’re leaking when the milk starts cooling on the sheets. And who wants to have sex with a bra on? Okay, kinky lingerie aside, we’re talking cover-the-top-half-of-your-body-stuffed-with-milk-absorbing-pad bras here. It’s a definite mood breaker.
Now add to that the feeling of wrongness if your husband touched the thing your kid just suckled on half an hour ago, the pain of cracked nipples and a decrease in sexual sensitivity. All of it resulting in breasts becoming a no go zone.
But breastfeeding isn’t forever, is it?
No, but imagine breastfeeding each kid for at least a year, like me. Now add two more kids. Let me tell you, hubby’s hand fondling my breasts has not been a regular pastime. I’ve worked it out, for the last 65 months I’d been breastfeeding for 40. Now add to those two pregnancies. That’s 89% of pregnant or breastfeeding in the last 5 ½ years. No wonder I didn’t regard my breasts as sexual objects.
But I’m glad to report, that the sex in breast is back. No more pregnancies, no more breastfeeding. My body is finally my own again.
I wonder if I can persuade MIL to look after the kids tonight…
How has being pregnant or breastfeeding changed the way you or your partner feel about your body?
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