Having babies at the same time forms the tightest of bonds.
weekend I got together with my son’s old Moms and Tots group as we do every
month – and have done for ten years.
our pre-teen children swimming together, laughing, joking and interacting like cousins
while we chatted about our lives was as relaxing and fun as always.
Lean on me
we’ve weathered miscarriages, new siblings, post natal depression, single
motherhood, divorces, job changes, launching businesses, leaving the workplace,
breastfeeding difficulties, sleeping worries, bullying, discipline problems and
we’re all taking some deep breaths before the hormonal teenage years hit us.
A Mommy War free zone
so different, some want elective c-sections, others prefer drug free natural
births. Some breastfeed while others don’t. Some work, some stay home; some
feel private schools are best, others that government schools are the way to go.
What we do have
in common is that we needed a support group of other mothers going through
similar things. We chat, we give opinions. There have been the occasional mild
skirmishes, but no outright fights, and they've never been about the way we
parent, but the normal ups and downs of any friendships.
What does the future hold?
I was reminded
of all this as I sat on another sunny Saturday afternoon with the group of
mothers I met at La Leche League meetings when I had my daughter, wondering if
ten years down the line we’d all be just as close.
we’ve stayed close because we’re quite organised. We have a roster that we send
out in December each year with the plan of who will host the get-togethers each
month (always the last weekend of the month) and where we will have outings to
(I'm the nerd who enjoys putting that together). We have a list of host’s
responsibilities, which include the catering. We've all got other friendship
groups and other special friends, but these friends who we’ve parented with all
the way through are something special.
children have grown up around each other, and when anyone has had an emergency,
they've all happily gone off with a well known friend without the additional
trauma of a stranger baby sitting them when everyone is frightened.
the people we phone up or e-mail and it feels like no time has passed at
think your high school friends will be forever, then your varsity friends, then
your ante-natal class friends, but sometimes friendships form in unexpected
ways and a group stays together for a decade. Here’s to many more years of
mommy friendship. I wonder if these will
be my friends when the children are grown and gone, or if we’ll drift apart as
the teenage years hit us soon.
Has having children paved the way for special
friendships for you?