Another baby, another baby shower?
What is the etiquette around baby showers? It can get confusing sometimes.
The other day a friend of mine pleaded with me not to tell the rest of our friends that she was pregnant again. She’d just had a baby and was pregnant again in a short space of time. She was embarrassed and felt uncomfortable having her friends host another baby shower for her; it was too soon and didn’t want people to spend money and gifts on her again.

I was a bit taken aback because I’m sure that as her friends we definitely wouldn’t see it that way, maybe it’s just me. Now I’m interested to know if there’s a limit to the number of baby showers a mother-to-be can have? My take is that each time you have a child then there is a baby shower but it seems like it’s not like that with everyone. Most people feel like it’s only for the 1st child and not each time someone falls pregnant.

Baby showers are usually organised by friends so I guess a mother has no control of what will happen because it comes as a surprise to them as well. This is what my friend didn’t want, she knew that a baby shower would be organised but she felt that due to her babies being close to each other it was unfair. As far as I understand; we are celebrating the mom-to-be and welcoming her into motherhood. 

Hosting your own baby shower?

There are people who frown upon this. I guess if you don’t have close family and friends you can then host your own baby shower. You know your circle of friends better and maybe you just don’t have that kind of support from them, so you host one yourself, why not? Some people I asked saw it as a way of asking for gifts and felt that it was not appropriate to host one yourself. Maybe we are focussing too much on the spending and not that it’s the celebration of the new life.

Gift registry for baby shower?

I’ve also seen gift registries for baby showers, personally I am against this one – can you not be happy with whatever we give you? This is where I draw the line. I once saw a pram, cot and washing machine on a baby shower gift registry and I just thought this was unacceptable. Having a wide range of gifts can help like vests, rompers and receiving blankets. Well, it can also depend on who you roll with but really, a washing machine?

When people make unnecessary demands and have big expectations I think we are changing a lovely occasion of how baby showers are supposed to be.

Are people losing the plot when it comes to baby showers?

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