I am a mother, not a baby mama!
Many mothers have serious issues with being called 'the baby mama'. It can get quite annoying.
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According to Urban Dictionary, “baby mama” is a term: used to define an unmarried woman who has had a child; most of the time the term is used for when the relationship was simply sexual.

Usually this has a negative connotation, the term baby mama is usually portrayed to be seen as desperate, gold diggers, emotionally starved, shady women who had a baby out of spite or to keep a man. They sometimes tend to act this way because of missed child support payments, unfulfilled promises by the father or convenient sex by the father.

I have a serious issue with the word “baby mama”. One is a mother and not a baby mama; that name to a certain extent has a condescending tone. I also think that the word itself comes with expected drama and what you are looking for will find you.

A woman may share a child with a man she is no longer in a relationship with and whether you like it or not, she will never disappear; you may not like that but that does not give you the right to call her a baby mama.

Most mothers I know mentioned that they prefer to be referred to as the mother of the child and not baby mama as that makes them feel insignificant. 

To the man, you made a child with this woman; she will always remain the mother of your child.

Ladies, I guess the same goes for the term, baby daddy. When the relationship has ended, let us find common ground and respect each other. I know it’s not easy sometimes, but we can try. 

The animosity that comes with a break up can be draining, I wish people can just do the right thing and put the interests of the child first. 

Not every woman is spiteful, angry, ridiculous and unreasonable as most people seem to assume.

Some women are getting on with their business and are quite decent ladies; they just need respect from the other party. Not every woman is bitter and wants to reconcile her relationship with her ex. Most women feel like victors, as though you won a prize the other woman so desperately wants.

Sometimes I wonder whether baby mama drama really exists or whether we perpetuate it ourselves as women. Being a parent, I often heard women coming up with ways of dealing with baby mama drama. 

Some women mention that they prefer not to get involved with hubby’s kids so that they can have no interaction with the baby mama, some women had quite serious altercations with the so called “baby mama”. 

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I have not met anyone who is comfortable being called a baby mama. Are you? 

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