A godparent has a role like no other, writes Cath Jenkin.
I’m not deeply concerned with organised religion
nor conventional traditions
. If you know anything about me at all, you’ll know that. The other thing you’ll know about me, is that I am a proud mama, a funny “Aunty Caff” to four beautiful girls and, I am - very proudly - a god
parent.You CAN choose your “other” family
When we chose godparents for our precious bundle, we chose people who had stood by us through many incarnations as individuals and a couple. They’d been with us through the good days, the bad days and the crazy in-betweens. They are steadfast characters that love and support both of us through the maelstrom of life, even now as co-parents. It’s not that I expect them to be spiritual gurus to our daughter or anything that conventional. Our choice of them as godparents stems from a sense of trust that they care for our kid as if it were their own. And they do. My daughter’s godparents celebrate every single success, babysit and are active participants in her life. We trust them with her, and she trusts them as she does us.
I’m lucky enough to be a godparent, twice over. One of my godchildren is my own niece. The other is the daughter of my best friend. Similarly, my best friend is my daughter’s godmother. Our mutual godparentship that spans across our relationship is indicative of our long-standing friendship.Being a godparent: Time to reflect
On the day of my goddaughter’s baptism
, I stood there, awed, just as I was the very first time I looked into my own daughter’s newborn eyes. Here was a little life, born to two of the strongest, most wonderful people I’ve ever had the luck to meet, and they trust me with their daughter, as I trust them with mine. In my own typical style, I coughed back tears and squeezed hands through the ceremony, whilst all I wanted to do was be sob and be overwhelmed by the significance of the moment.
In our life, godparents aren’t there to guide in a way of thinking, they’re there to support. They’re the people our children will – hopefully – one day call upon when they think they can’t talk to their parents in the midst of some crazy teenage angst phase
. They’re the people who are able to step in and support, when our kids feel adrift at any point in life. I’ve got my own godmother too, who I admire for her strength, straightforwardness and utter beauty. At nearly 32, I know I can call her and she’ll be there.
Being a godmother isn’t some duty I’ve been given. It’s an honour I hold in my heart as high as I do the honour of being a mother - so much so, that each of my arms are tattooed with symbols of this honour. Every day, I am reminded that I am not just a mother, an aunt and a daughter, but I am a proud godmother too.Take a look below at our Celeb Godparents gallery:
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How did you go about choosing godparents for your kids?