The first month
This month is a period of great adjustment for you and your baby. We help you to cope during this difficult month.
Bringing your baby home
Your baby’s first introduction to his/her new home is a special time
for parents. But don’t be surprised if your baby cries more often,
struggles to fall asleep or feeds more poorly than in hospital. Your
baby has to adjust to his/her new environment and it will take a while
to settle in.
You will soon find out that loads of friends and relatives want to
visit you when you’re out of hospital. Although they mean well, you
need your rest and these visits can be inconvenient and very tiring for
you. Ask them to phone in advance rather than just popping in. Reserve
the right to ask them to come at another time if you don’t feel up to
What can your baby do?
Your baby’s first bath
- Focuses on your face while breastfeeding
- Responds to sound
It is normal to feel scared and unsure about bathing your baby. You may probably feel quite clumsy and scared that he/she may slip.What will make it easier and how should you go about it?
Cutting your baby’s nails
- Fold the top 30cm of a towel or blanket.
- Place your baby in the middle with his shoulders inside the top edge.
- Tuck one side of the baby under the opposite arm.
- Fold the blanket over the baby’s feet.
- Tuck the last piece of blanket over the exposed arm.
- Make sure nothing covers the baby’s face – ever!
To avoid cuts and injuries, wait until the baby is asleep before attempting to cut the nails. Using a pair of scissors designed for babies, cut the nails straight across.How much sleep does your baby need?
At this stage your baby sleeps about sixteen hours a day – if you’re lucky!Your baby’s first outing
The first outing can be quite intimidating and scary for new mothers. What can you do to make it easier?
- Right timing: its best to travel after a feed and nappy change.
- Pack well: see What’s in a bag?
- Be realistic: don’t plan a long trip away from home. Stick to familiar places close to home.
- Baby-friendly environments: if you plan to go shopping, go to a centre with baby changing and feeding facilities. Ask other mothers for advice.
- Where’s that dummy? To spare yourself from scratching around for a dummy while you are driving, fasten his/her dummy with a dummy chain.
What’s in a bag?
- Always use a car seat and help your child form a lifelong habit of buckling up.
- Read the manufacturer's instructions and always keep them with the car seat.
- Make sure that you know how to fasten and unfasten the car seat and how to adjust shoulder straps.
- Children in rear-facing car seats should never be placed in a front seat equipped with an air bag.
- Learn which car seat to get for your baby.
If you don’t want to find out the hard way, read our tips on what to pack:
Confusing day and night
- Spare nappies
- A changing mat
- Breast pads
- If you bottle feed, pack an extra bottle of formula feed
- An extra set of clothing (you may want to take an extra top for yourself as well)
- A baby blanket in winter
- A dummy chain
- Plastic bags for used nappies
Your baby can’t distinguish between day and night. Help her adjust by keeping the room dark at night and using a dimmer during night feeds. If she sleeps longer than three hours during the day, wake her.Why do babies cry?
There are dozens of reasons for this, but here are the most common ones:
Your baby’s stools
- Too hot or too cold
- Wet or soiled nappy
- Losing a dummy
- Sudden loud noises
A breastfed baby will have soft yellow stools. During the first few weeks she will probably pass stools after every feed. Don’t worry about constipation – it is highly unlikely in breastfed babies. Some breastfed babies may not pass a stool for four to five days.Cot death
Cot death is one of the things parents fear most. Learn about cot death and what you can do to help prevent it.What you can do to stimulate your baby
If your baby is awake and wants to engage with you, you could try the following:
- Affection - give lots of cuddles
- Your baby likes rhythm - sing lullabies, and rock and sway your baby
- Encourage head movement by moving your fingers or a coloured object through your baby’s field of vision
- Help your baby to open his/her fingers by playing games in which you unfold the fingers one at a time