A belated word of advice from another dad who has also had his wild times.
Dear Tiger, make sure you’ve sown your wild oats well before you settle down to parenting.
I’ve never taken to Tiger Woods. Something about the size of those lips, his permanent scowl and his mechanical inclinations to achieve the near impossible set off a warning light about him, for me anyway. Not that my opinion matters in the slightest.
But what’s happened to him right now is of course hugely embarrassing and traumatic for his wife and kids. As for him, he deserves no sympathy whatsoever and I for one would be very impressed if he recovers from such a, well, disgusting fall from grace. I say this with a bit of experience as a reformed bad boy, however, my wake up call came in the form of my kids.
Men’s predatory instinct
I think all men go through a phase when their predatory instincts are heightened and you pretty much want to sow your wild oats
whenever the opportunity arises. And I guess the higher up the food chain your tiger roams, the more appealing the appetisers are. Having children, for me, ignited a dormant need to protect, nurture and love unconditionally, as I’m sure most men can relate to.
However, I know that for some men, the parenting thing is as foreign as having to darn their own socks. But children also usher in with them a non-negotiable sense of morals and values. Whether your kids were planned or not
, once they’re there, you have to, yes have to become responsible.
In the areas where their physical lives depend upon you watching out for them, but more importantly those where you are the one who sets the bar for their morals and values. Just recently during the court case of a brutal rapist
and killer it was stated that he had grown up with no parental role models.
Even in nature animals that are raised without parental supervision tend to go off the rails – the young parentless bull elephants in the Pilanesberg attacking rhinos and cars being a case in point.
The point Tiger needs to realise is that you can not go around shagging a reported 10 other women besides your wife and expect your kids to look up to you as a role model and the centre of their universe. Screw (pardon the pun) the rest of the world Tiger, your first and worst cock-up was against your children and your wife.
Should having kids tame a man’s predatory instincts?