Sipho takes a closer look at the world through a little one’s eyes.
Everything looms large from where I am, down here, crawling on all fours. Everything is new to me, colours, smells, touch and taste, that’s why I’ve got an urge to put everything I touch into my mouth - including mum’s shoes.
I like pulling everything in my view as I explore the world around me, except for two words, ‘Dada’ and ‘Mama’. I can’t talk yet so I communicate to you mainly by crying
. I cry when I’m hungry, scream when I’m frustrated and whimper when you don’t give me enough attention. You see if I never cried you’ll never know what’s happening in my little mind. When I cry I’m just expressing my needs and not inviting you to yell or beat
Don’t treat me like a little adult, I’m just a child. I’ve only been around for a few years, if not months. Don’t expect me to view things the same way you do. You are there to teach and guide me. My brain is like a blank piece of paper, waiting for you to write the values you want me to follow.
Remember it took years of experience to think the way you do.
Take this into consideration before you vent your annoyance and frustrations on me, because I’m not behaving in the adult way that you expect me to.Be patient with me
When I do right, give me commendation from the heart. When you punish me remind me of the things I’ve done right. Tell me why you are punishing me. Make me understand why I’m being punished.
Commend me when I do right. Don’t tell me, “You are a good child” because I might not understand it. Rather commend me for my accomplishments instead of my personality.
You have a better control on your emotions than me so when I make you mad with my childish pranks, be patient and remember that I’m still a work in progress. Talk to me in a calm way and not in a frustrated and annoyed tone.
When I’m in your motherly arms or fatherly grip I feel protected. I view you as sources of comfort so don’t bully
Help me enjoy this stage of my life and don’t restrict me unnecessarily.
Guide me gently and consider my limitations. Try to view the world through my eyes- not yours. I don’t have the ability to view the world through your eyes because I’ve never been there. But most of all, love me.How patient and understanding are you when it comes to your little ones?
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