‘I want my bed back’
I think my toddler is developing a master takeover plan, says this mom of two.
Having kids means nothing is ever yours anymore. Your body is taken over, stretched, scarred, and finally given back – not always in the same condition it was originally found in. First it’s your body, the next step is your bed.

When it was just Sean and I, our double bed was more than sufficient space for both us, then Luke arrived. Now I know we’ve all made the mistake of having our newborn babies sleeping in our beds with us, right?

Beside the fact that you not really sleeping very deeply because your subconscious keeps reminding you there’s a foreign little object on your pillow, there’s still nothing better than waking up with a warm little bundle next to you.

The biggest mistake I think we first time parents make is keeping the warm little bundle in our beds for too long. The thing I came to realise is that they like it in our beds and don’t want to leave and eventually leave us feeing like the intruders as they take over.  We struggled for a long time to get Luke into his own bed and to keep him there.

A bed big enough for 4

Things were just starting to go well and 19 months after Luke was born – I found out I was pregnant again. Straight away we went out and bought a queen size bed because if Luke’s example was anything to go by, a double bed would not be big enough for 4 of us.

So at the moment, Luke has his bed, Amy is still in her cot (for now) and mommy and daddy occasionally have their bed to themselves. Amy has this habit of waking up in the middle of the night and crying for me. When I get to her all I hear is ‘uppy, Mommy’ closely followed by ‘bottie’. So at anywhere between 3am and 5am we’re off to the kitchen, pour a bottle and into mommy's bed.

Terrible I know but if I put her into her cot then she cries and I can’t take the chance of her waking Luke up (as they share a room). Personally I think she is far cleverer than I give credit for and it’s all part of her master plan to completely take over my bed.

So Amy should be moving out of her cot into her own bed soon but what is the best way to keep her there? Help. As it is, every night (at least 3 or 4 times) I get woken up with that ‘someone is watching me’ feeling and lo and behold there’s Luke wanting to climb in. Shame, poor little thing just gets told to go back to bed and runs off crying. 

Some mornings I wake up with boney little knees in my back, little toes digging into my thigh or an elbow in my ear and I think ‘that’s it, tonight they get strapped to their beds’. But then there are those other mornings when I wake up with Amy’s little forehead pressed firmly against mine and I listen to her snoring softly and I think ‘well, one more night wasn’t so bad’.

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