Moms versus dads
It’s not all rosy in every family. Here’s some of what makes us argue.
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Bickering in the back seat and stony silences in the front?

It’s a rare family that manages to avoid conflict from time to time. According to the Parent24 2009 survey, there are many different reasons why we can’t all just get along and be a happy family all the time.

And we can’t even agree on what we’re arguing about!

Household chores

If your partner is in the kitchen, slamming dishes down in a cacophony of resentment, you may need to take urgent action. According to the survey,  43,1%  of women believe that chores cause serious conflict in their homes. Bringing up the rear, only 30,8% of men felt that chores were the cause of conflict. Time to pull on those rubber gloves, dads?

Lack of sleep

If you sleep blissfully through the baby’s howls, you might be setting yourself up for the cold shoulder. Lack of sleep is seen as a cause of conflict by a significant 22,48% of women, whereas only 16,7% of men who answered the survey felt that disturbed nights were causing a problem.

Naughty brats

The behaviour of children is considered a serious cause of conflict by 32,21% of women. Only 23,42% of men thought that their children’s misbehaviour caused family conflict. Is this because dads have a higher tolerance for the odd bit of naughtiness, or are they better at shutting out the mayhem in front of the rugby or a computer game.

Who’s spending                       

The one area where both sexes agree there is a problem is when it comes to money. Just over 48% of males and females agree that money is a serious cause of conflict in the home. So if you were thinking of buying a new pair of designer shoes, or a new set of mags for the car, maybe it’s a good idea to discuss it with your partner first.

What causes most conflict in your home? And would your partner agree?

The Parent24 2009 survey had more than 8000 responses. The survey, weighted by gender, race and education, represents approximately 7 million metropolitan adults educated to the level of at least matric, across South Africa. For more about the methodology and for results analysis by Jean Redpath and Michael O’Donovan of Hlakanaphila Analytics, download the Parent24 2009 survey PDF. Or see full results.

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