No time for men?
I’m happy for the new generation of women who are finding their own way for their children, says Masanda Peter.
Recent research by an advertising agency reflects on the new black women, as I like to call them. These women are between the ages of 22-37, LSM 5-7, they’re married to their careers, and they find happiness and meaning in their kids.

Respondents think women are stronger than men, so they do not depend on men. They are defined by financial independence, make their own decisions, and say it's up to them to look after themselves and raise their children. This then leaves little space for the man in their lives.

According to Rita Doherty of Draftfcb, these women find happiness and meaning in their kids, and the pride they feel in providing for their kids keeps them motivated, despite the hardships.

This is so liberating to hear, especially knowing that we have many women complaining about men who do not want to play a role in their children’s lives. I am happy to see this mindset with women these days because way back it was not like that. He would leave for the city to look for a job and sometimes disappear. The woman would be forced to look for work and have her children raised by grannies or other family members thus losing touch with their children.

Moms striving for their children

It is heart-warming to see that despite the challenges, women are still striving for the best in providing for their children. No matter what the circumstances, the women are determined to make it work. I really think that we have learned so much from women before us. Yes, you may ask, what is wise about having a child out of wedlock?
‘To be a black woman in this century means to be alone, with your children, without a husband and marriage,’ the study quoted an unidentified 29-year-old woman as saying. A 25-year-old woman says: ‘I am a single parent and always make sure I am strong for my child's sake.’

The children still need the involvement of their fathers but in all of that, women are making it work. We have so many single mothers who have done an excellent job of raising their children alone.

This women’s month I want to salute the mothers who are grabbing the bull by the horn. No matter what the situation they are in. They ensure that their children have the best. Yes, there are those challenging times but hold the flag high and stay strong. I am loving the new black woman and the strength she is showing.

How do you think women’s roles and attitudes have changed?

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