Things I would do differently
This mom shares 5 things she regrets not doing in the first 2 years.
My son is turning 9 this year and most of my friends have kids older than 6 now. It seems that the baby phase has well and truly passed for my group. My sister has a one year old and when I see her, it gets me yearning (only a bit) for those cute baby and toddler days. Although I think I have done the best job I could so far, I must admit that I have a few regrets and things I might have done differently if I had to start over. My list looks like this:1.
I wish I had had some professional newborn
photos taken – You know the ones that Anne Geddes made famous and that many people do now with babies in tea cups and flowers. You can only do those in the first few weeks and I waited until my son was 11 months old before I got the first pro shots taken!2.
More bed cuddles. I was so terrified of creating a bad habit of letting my son sleep in the bed
with me that I always put him down in his own cot and now I kind of feel like I missed out on some cuddle opportunities.3.
More mess. I am a serious type “A” personality and every time I gave my son messy food or paint, I first covered him and the surrounding area in paper, plastic, bibs, cloths etc. Now I realize that houses are actually quite easy to clean and I think if I started again, I would just relax and let the mess happen.4.
Miniature hand and foot prints. My son was premature
and had the teeniest hands and feet. I wish I had taken imprints of them so I could show him how tiny he was.5.
A wider exposure to food. I stuck to the book about how babies should be fed and always assumed that a toddler would only eat something very plain and uncomplicated. I have seen parents feeding their toddlers sushi, olives, curry and all sorts of strong – tasting food and I think it is great to expose them to a wider variety. Interestingly, at the age of 8, my son eats EVERYTHING except avocado so as it turns out, it made no difference but it would have made my life a lot easier if I wasn’t constantly making special, bland food for my toddler.
I am not a big believer in regrets in general but I think I might have changed just these few things if I had another chance. Do you have anything you would change about your parenting in the early days?