‘I won’t change a nappy!’
Why do some men get away with avoiding the hands-on side of being a dad?
This Tata would have none of it, he says he loves his bundle of joy to bits but will not go near nappies. He is willing to give his wife money to buy nappies but he is not willing to change one.
This is not the first time I've heard of this and I am not sure what to think of it. One thing I know for sure is that as a mother you need all the support you can get when it comes to taking care of the child.
I have met the so-called traditionalists who are adamant that they will not touch a nappy as this job belongs to a woman. They believe their job in the house is to be a provider and that is the role they should play as men. Some felt that by asking them to change nappies their manhood is being tampered with - something they will not compromise on.
I decided to speak to some fathers to hear their views on the matter. Different views came up and I was relieved to hear most men saying that they will gladly help out with their babies. 'This is my baby and I do not see why I should not perform certain functions. I want to be fully involved with my child and this will also give me a chance to bond with my baby at an early stage,' says one of the proud fathers.
Mzilikazi Wa Afrika, a Sunday Times journalist says: 'I change my children’s nappies and take them to the doctor. If you can make a baby why can’t you take care of the baby? Taking care of the baby is not the woman's responsibility alone. I think it should be every man’s pride to know how to take good care of the baby, nappy changing included.'
'Referring to the task as being a woman's job is outdated and old fashioned. Any man can make a baby but it takes a real man to be a father. Being a father does not mean that you need to buy your kids expensive toys but playing a role of being a responsible father.'
Loyiso Sitsheke, a sport presenter from Umhlobo Wenene sees himself as a traditionalist and says that only if the mother is not around will he change a nappy. 'As much as times have evolved some things are better left as they are and not to be tampered with,' he says.
'Before I change a nappy it has to be a valid reason where the mother is in a situation where she cannot. I am also worried that I might handle the child roughly so this function is better left with my partner. I can wake up at night and help prepare the bottle but not the nappy. I am just not ready to change the nappy.'
As mothers one thing I know is that we appreciate having our partners help us in raising our children. Nappies included!
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