‘I won’t change a nappy!’
Why do some men get away with avoiding the hands-on side of being a dad?
This Tata would have none of it, he says he loves his bundle of joy to bits but will not go near nappies
. He is willing to give his wife money to buy nappies but he is not willing to change one.
This is not the first time I've heard of this and I am not sure what to think of it. One thing I know for sure is that as a mother you need all the support you can get when it comes to taking care of the child.
I have met the so-called traditionalists who are adamant that they will not touch a nappy as this job belongs to a woman
. They believe their job in the house is to be a provider and that is the role they should play as men. Some felt that by asking them to change nappies their manhood is being tampered with - something they will not compromise on.
I decided to speak to some fathers to hear their views on the matter. Different views came up and I was relieved to hear most men saying that they will gladly help out with their babies. 'This is my baby and I do not see why I should not perform certain functions. I want to be fully involved with my child and this will also give me a chance to bond with my baby at an early stage,' says one of the proud fathers.
Mzilikazi Wa Afrika, a Sunday Times journalist says: 'I change my children’s nappies and take them to the doctor. If you can make a baby why can’t you take care of the baby? Taking care of the baby is not the woman's responsibility alone. I think it should be every man’s pride to know how to take good care of the baby, nappy changing included.'
'Referring to the task as being a woman's job is outdated and old fashioned. Any man can make a baby but it takes a real man to be a father. Being a father does not mean that you need to buy your kids expensive toys but playing a role of being a responsible father.'
Loyiso Sitsheke, a sport presenter from Umhlobo Wenene sees himself as a traditionalist and says that only if the mother is not around will he change a nappy. 'As much as times have evolved some things are better left as they are and not to be tampered with,' he says.
'Before I change a nappy it has to be a valid reason where the mother is in a situation where she cannot. I am also worried that I might handle the child roughly so this function is better left with my partner. I can wake up at night and help prepare the bottle
but not the nappy. I am just not ready to change the nappy.'
As mothers one thing I know is that we appreciate having our partners help us in raising our children. Nappies included!
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