Coping without your domestic during the holidays
It is that time of year were we need to start preparing ourselves to cope without our faithful and helpful domestic workers.
A few days ago I was chatting to a colleague of mine about how stressed I am feeling as my domestic would be leaving on holiday soon, and I was not sure how I was going to cope with all that had to be done. My colleague just laughed at me and explained that she never lets her domestic take leave during the holidays because there is no way she will cope with the household chores as she has three kids messing up the place.
I couldn’t help but feel disappointed at what she had to say. I thought about how her domestic must feel at not having an opportunity to spend Christmas with her family. I then thought how sad I would be if I had to work over such a special time of year and not get to spend time with my loved ones.
I realise there are many families out there who expect their domestic to work throughout the festive season, some even go to the extent of taking their domestic away on holiday with them.
There are also many families out there who cope perfectly fine when their domestics are away on holiday; it all depends on how you make it work as a family. Here are some tips to help you get through:
Keep it simple – Do not aim for perfection when it comes to the neatness of your home. It is not possible to keep your house in the same condition like your domestic. Try to make your home presentable and comfortable, that’s it.
Involve the family – Get the whole family involved in keeping the home in order. Assign chores if you have to. If everyone cleans up after themselves you don’t end up with a messy home.
Feelings of Exhaustion/ tiredness – It is completely normal to feel exhausted and tired as you are not used to doing household chores. Tell yourself the situation will not last forever and before you know it your domestic will be back and the house will be all normal again.
Use the situation as a learning opportunity – Teach the kids that a neat home is not always dependant on a domestic being available. Often our children do not fully comprehend that having a domestic is a privilege for the family. There are many kids out there who are expected to carry out household responsibilities on a daily basis as their parents cannot afford a domestic worker. The situation provides you with an opportunity to teach your kids to appreciate their domestic and become a bit more responsible in the process.
Have some fun – It’s the holidays. A time to relax and unwind from all the pressure the year has brought. Do not let your situation ruin your relaxation and fun time with the family.
Do you think domestic helpers should work over the holidays? Are you going to cope without your domestic over the holidays?
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