What do and will you tell them about their choices around drugs and alcohol?
I have been honest with the boys from Day 1. They know we had to separate as a unit because we were addicts and drugs were going to kill us and possibly them. They know I lost them for a while because of my addiction. It appears that honesty has paid off as they are amazingly well rounded and stable kids. They are sensibly anti-drugs because I think they see what damage it caused us.
They don’t see us smoking, drinking or drugging and so they are not being given mixed messages. Many parents get trashed and then tell their kids not to drink or drug. Hypocrisy will get you nowhere! They don’t trust double standards. Children know what is true and real - they know when we lie to them. As a result of us not lying to them, they don’t lie to us.
Do we do enough to teach kids about the potential dangers of drug experimentation?
I don’t think we talk enough to our kids. We are often not present; we’re too busy working and doing things to really sit down and listen and talk. The TV has become the surrogate parent. I think kids in crisis turn to drugs…If we loved more, the lectures on drugs would have to happen less…I think it’s almost too late to start telling kids about drugs if they are already doing them.