Are you guilty of giving the impression that you're a perfect parent to perfect kids?
With the mommy wars getting a bit tired (we’re all starting to spot the seemingly innocent question posted to get the claws out) mothers are turning to the humble brag to stir up attention (nothing says popular quite like numerous comments on your post on Facebook).
What is a humble brag?
This is from the Urban Dictionary:
“Subtly letting others know about how fantastic your life is while undercutting it with a bit of self-effacing humor or "woe is me" gloss.
Uggggh just ate about fifteen pieces of chocolate gotta learn to control myself when flying first class or they'll cancel my modeling contract LOL :p”
Here are a few parenting examples:
“It is so difficult to take my child to eat out, she only eats organically grown food and will just refuse to eat anything else served to her, she knows when it isn’t organic, I don’t have to say a word.” (said child is two and was seen munching on a chicken nugget picked up off the floor ten minutes prior to this being said loudly to her companion).
“I wish my child would just have a tantrum and not recite Shakespearean soliloquies when upset”. OK, I made that one up, but I’m pretty sure I’ll see something similar soon.
Why do people humble brag?
Some people like to feel superior with the choices they make. Some I suppose feel they are being genuinely humorous, but I suspect they’re in the minority. Some people just enjoy the comments and fighting that occur after they make the comments and they’re no longer getting them to their usual wide eyed question about “is it better to do x or y” where they know people have strong opinions in either direction and neither is actually better or worse, just situation and preference dependent)
How not to humble brag
Well, this bit is easy. If you are posting something because you want others to see just how perfect a parent you are, don’t.
For example, if you catch your baby’s bowel movements in fabric it doesn’t make you more special than those who use disposables. Nobody wants to hear how poor you are now and can’t afford to buy your kale this month because you have bought 2 000 “diapers” (and unless you are actually American, what is wrong with the word “nappy”?). Go ahead, use cloth or disposable, nobody really cares.
If you feel the need to point out how difficult your life is because your seven month old is talking fluently in four languages and says embarrassing things, zip it. We don’t believe you anyway.
Want to tell us all how stiff your legs are because you spent hours kneeling and washing off the leaves of the plants in your garden (that part is fine) it is when you add that it is because instead of fertilizer you use manure from your dogs (waste not want not) that you’re treading on humble brag territory (this doesn’t make you a better person we promise).
A word to the wise, there are plenty of satire pages doing the rounds that poke fun at these humble brags. They’re great fun to read.
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What is the best humble brag you’ve seen?