5 principles of parenting
Need a little extra parenting advice to help you through the day? This is what you need.
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Most parenting advice borders around a few principles which parenting experts spin time and time again.Here are some of these nuggets:1. Hold on to the reigns of authority
Whether your child is an infant or an adolescent you are in charge. You make the rules. It's your role to bring order to your child's life. Authority must be exercised with love. Needed discipline must not be withheld but administered with restraint.2. Uplifting mealtimes
Switch off the TV and other distractions. For ages busy parents have used mealtimes
to catch up on what is happening in their child’s life.
Some parents have benefited from making meal times a relaxed and happy occasion where every family member feels free to talk from the heart.3. Children are not little adults
In the wild it was noticed that an entire herd of elephants will adjust its walking pace to allow a baby elephant to keep up with the entire group. If only human parents would do the same!
We should resist the urge to over schedule our children as if they are little adults. One only has to look at how over-scheduled child celebrities
turn out to be troubled adults who feel that their childhood was stolen from them.
Also, don’t use your child as a confidante. Seek out a mature adult to overload with your anxieties. Let children be children. Let them play.4. Teach them self control
We live in a 'now' generation. When we want information now, we Google it
. A few seconds later, there it is. We hate waiting for anything. We may mistakenly pass on the same attitude to our children, spoiling them, and giving them the idea that everything comes easy.
For them to deal with reality we have to teach our children self control. They have to learn that they cannot have everything now. They have to learn that, many times, to be successful in life, they must learn to delay gratification. 5. Love, love, love
When in doubt about any parenting aspect we do well to ask ourselves: 'What is the loving thing to do?' That way we will always look back at our parenting skills and know that we did the right thing. Disclaimer: The views of columnists published on Parent24 are their own and therefore do not necessarily represent the views of Parent24.What are your top parenting principles?