Moms threatens school bully
Is it right for parents to threaten the children who bully their kids?
Lately I’m seeing more mothers stepping up to the bullies, protecting their children. I know of a mother who waited for her child’s bully at the school gate where she was armed with a knobkerrie. The bully saw this and didn’t come out of the school gate. I guess when a parent resorts to this it’s because they have stomached enough and want to take action. I once watched a video of a boy who was in preschool and was kicking, tripping and punching toddlers. That video makes my blood boil and I’ve not watched it again because it traumatised me. First to see those young, innocent kids being violated by this boy and secondly to see this boy with such a twisted mind, full of violence at such a young age was just sad. When I look at that I wonder what I would have done. 

School takes no action

Even though some parents report the matter to the school, nothing seems to change or no action is taken. In other cases the parents will defend their child because we all believe that we are raising angels but in some cases it’s not so. 

One mom whose child was being teased and tormented for being fat said that approaching the teacher was just not an option any more as there was no change. When she saw how traumatised her child was she had to do something. Every morning her daughter would worry and talk about this bully in class. Then one morning she asked her daughter to point the bully out to her and went straight to her on the playground and said (ndakukuhlaba mntanam ndikungcwabe apho bangasoze bakufumane khona abazali bakho - “I will stab you, go bury you where your parents will never find you again”.  After these words it was the end of the bullying.  She was expecting the bully’s parents to approach her but they never did. 

Parents take no action

Some parents will defend their children and others will try to deal with their problematic child which I think comes naturally for most parents. Having said that we can’t have our children being victimised and do nothing about it. Telling your child to hit the bully back might not be a solution because one can get injured. And according to psychologists teaching your child to solve problems with violence is not good. 
We have seen children being bullied to death, we need to take action and seek all kinds of interventions. This is in no way condoning violence but I guess when enough is enough, parents have to step in. It’s easy to blame the other parent but I am one parent who will not have a child that is going to be bullied and leave it there.  

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