Discipline - One Form Of Which Is Spanking! -Eion Watson
I find it really amazing how people, generally speaking, have
to discuss and debate so many issues today, in the 21st century,
regarding what is right and wrong, when just one hundred years ago these issues
were hardly mentioned publicly, one of which is spanking!
The reason I believe this is the case, is that modern man
has become secular and humanistic in his thinking and prefers to take the
advice given by psychologists and their ilk, in preference to using the ‘manual
for living life’, more commonly known as the Bible, which is THE WORD OF GOD!
Just a few examples of what the Bible has to say about child
discipline in the Book of Proverbs (for those who aren't familiar with them):
“The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but
fools despise wisdom and discipline."
“My son does not despise the Lord’s discipline and do not
resent His rebuke, because the Lord disciplines those He loves, as a father the
son he delights in.”
“He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him
is careful to discipline him.” Prov. 13: 24.
“Even a child is known by his actions by whether his conduct
is pure and right.” Prov. 20: 11.
“Folly is bound up in the heart of a child but the rod of
discipline will drive it far from him.” Prov. 22: 15.
“Train a child in the way he should go and when he is old he
will not turn from it.” Prov. 22: 6.
There are many more passages in Proverbs regarding
discipline, but the few which have been quoted will suffice to give an idea of
how the Lord views discipline!
I know there will be many people who will pooh! pooh! these
comments, but they do so to their own detriment!
Children who don't get spanked are brats -Lauren
Yes I spank my kids, I have two boys and talking helps to a
extent. I have seen kids that have not being spanked and they are spoilt little
brats who think they can get away with everything and anything.
clearly says spare the rod spoil the child and no I don’t hit with a rod. I
have a wooden spoon that my kids get smacked on their bums with. If you ask my
kids what they would prefer (a hiding or being grounded) they will tell you they
will take their hiding.
I am a firm believer that if a child is really naughty and
unruly that they then deserve a good hiding.
Abuse is when you smack your child anywhere you can, and if
you hit them for no reason all the time.
This is just my 2 cents.
Stop pampering your kids -Antoinette Jordaan
I'm not a parent. I'm
just an adult that has to live in a world where other people have kids and have
to deal with their dramas.
What I experience is a serious
lack of respect for other people, a sense of entitlement and absolutely no
sense of responsibility. We are pampering these kids to absolute destruction.
In WWII, 19 year olds were going
to war, fighting for freedom. Now? Our 19 year olds have their
feelings hurt on Facebook. What the hell are they going to do when they
Stop pampering your kids and
start teaching them that if you do wrong, there are sometimes DIRECT
CONSEQUENCES. And sometimes it's not just a time-out in a corner,
sometimes you will get knocked the hell down.
I know that spanking isn't
always the answer, but I expect people to teach their kids that bad behaviour
will result in punishment.
Scientific proof -Martyn Longhurst
The scientific results that prove that spanking is
detrimental to your child have been known for years.
The very fact that you
view spanking as necessary because it was done to you is the same reasoning a
partner in an abusive relationship doesn't recognise the abuse.
You have been
subjected to it for so long that you have now rationalised it as a part of your
life and therefore acceptable. By using spanking on your children, you are
perpetuating that abuse. Don't deny the science, stop the abuse.
Balanced Corporal Punishment -Kurt
South Africa, don't be short-sighted
Recently there was a report in
the media of a proposal being handed in to have corporal punishment in the home
declared a criminal offense!
This is very short-sighted in
the light of the reports coming from a country like Britain who are now
seriously investigating the possibility of reinstalling controlled corporal punishment
in their schools! This speaks volumes. Why must South Africa plunge into the
wrong paths of western Europe while they begin to realize that there is
We are living in a sick and
perverse generation. Public educators are not allowed to discipline disobedient
rebellious children using corporal punishment but at the same time governments
allow the murder of unborn children through abortion.
So-called "elite" secular
thinkers are encouraging the abandonments of discipline which is causing an
alarming rise of juvenile delinquency. This massive rebellion against authority
and out of control rage of children is often seen on television in the riots in
many countries around the world and increasingly in South Africa! This caused
Britain to rethink.
The Bible teaches that in the
last days "lawlessness will abound".
As God-fearing Christians we
believe that the absence of caring loving reproof and correction, including
corporal punishment, of children during the formative years enhances disrespect
and rebellious behaviour. There is a huge difference between discipline and
abuse. Any form of abuse and violent outbursts are harmful for the child.
Verbal abuse is just as harmful as corporal abuse. These are not done to bring
the child back in line.
While corporal punishment should
not be the first and only way of correction, we believe that it should always
remain at the very least the last resort. We believe this, because we trust the
certain word of our Lord Jesus Christ (Heb 12, 5-6+11): "My son, do not
regard lightly the discipline of the Lord, nor be weary when reproved by him.
For the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and chastises every son whom he
receives. ... For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant,
but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been
trained by it."
Just like our Lord deals with
us, we want to deal with our children. On the one hand children need clear
rules and consistent discipline appropriate to their wrongdoing. Children need
to learn: If rebellion or revolution escalates it will have bodily
On the other hand they need
parents who assure them of their genuine love for them. They need forgiveness.
They need to hear: You are forgiven. They need a hug which is a form of
corporal reconciliation. Corporal punishment and corporal reconciliation,
especially in bringing up boys, are very important.
We believe, teach and confess
that God's word has indeed never proven wrong and it blesses those who follow
it's genuine teaching in the context of the whole of Scripture. It always has
the last say.
We call on our government not to
be hi-jacked and deceived by some good-sounding reports and "studies"
which from the beginning don't allow for a balanced approach on discipline.
Why, oh Africa, do you fall for
secular liberal upbringing methods which cannot show any good results? Like
Mandela said, we can do better! Lets do it!
We do what our religion dictates -Kahmiela August
My daughter is 5 now and I have given her a spanking
which was really meant to sting once. She thought it was hilarious to break
away, tear out of our hands, jump off the pavement and run into traffic. She
thought our panic was hilarious - a massive joke and paid no attention to our
warnings, the naughty corner or time outs. At the Hermanus Whale festival in
2014, 4 years old, she did it again and a car missed her by a hairs breathe. I
thank God every day the driver was alert and aware of all these people. And I
spanked her bum and she knew I meant it. And she has never ever run into the
road again; automatically holds my hand in the parking lot.
We have a three warning rule and a 3 count to change your
behaviour. We talk, explain, talk, explain, talk explain then threaten a tap on
the bum. That's what our Religion dictates - talk three times so that you're
sure you've been heard, before spanking.
Its my job to parent and raise my child with manners, respect for
others, morals and knowing right from wrong. Spanking is an ultimate last
resort, but I will use it gently if nothing else works. I don't ever have to -
as long as she knows I'll follow through after warning 3, by the time she's on
warning three her behaviour changes.
It doesn't really matter what the law says. My child is
loved, safe, protected, nurtured and the light of our lives. Her outrage and
outburst of tears when she is tapped is more shock that she didn't get her way
or frustration that her behaviour was not tolerated, than physical pain. A
startling realisation that she may be a Princess; her world may be bubbles and
rainbows, but the King and Queen call the shots and her behaviour needs to
change. And as a consequence, she is courteous, respectful, a joy to elders.
She never leaves the playground with strangers. I can live with that.
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