Fatherhood is not child's play
"Embrace fatherhood despite the challenges!" says this dad of 3 kids from 3 different moms.
My father has always been a role model to me because of what he taught
me in life and for giving me the best education. My mother didn't work
and my dad stepped in and provided the best he could. If he had not been
in my life, I would not not be where I am today.
I want to simplify the role of being a father to my kids and I have only two goals that I want them to achieve:
- I want my kids one day leave home with a positive self-image and
to have a relationship with God that would be central to their identity
and what they do in life.
- I want them to have the best grounding and centrality of a faith that gives them meaning and purpose in life.
Unfortunately I was not present when my firstborn Ezile was born, I was
still at varsity, but when I first laid eyes on her I could not stop
smiling because I knew that I am a father. She jumped into my arms
wrapping her around me in a hug that has ‘I love you ‘written all over
I had an awesome privilege of being there when my other two children
Sange and Ovayo were born. I was the first person to put my arms around
them and I promised them even before they took their first breath that I
will never leave them and would be the best dad I could possibly be. I
hope to live up to that promise and to the ultimate calling of
What I really appreciate most about being a father is the privilege of
investing love, time, and energy into three precious souls who are on
loan from God for just a little while and watching them prosper,
flourish within a family that has their back, no matter what.
Own up and move on
I have three children, all with different mothers and I treasure the
beautiful experience of seeing my face formed in each of them. The very
fact that I have three children from different women is an indication of
illness in our society. It is evidence of our lack of willpower and
inability to do the right thing and being responsible. It is not
something I am proud of but the lack of role models has influenced my
not knowing about family building and planning. I am not able to afford
everything they want but I’m trying my best to provide the best I can
afford. I want them never to lose sight of the fact that I love them and
never let money come between our love.
I love my daughters in a way I never thought possible to love anyone. I
didn’t think that I was ready to be a father to them but having them in
my life has been the best blessing ever and I would not change the
situation. I love you my angels and I will always be there for you.