No matter how old their kids are, parents will always worry.
Most of our kids are born normal, get through school, get good jobs etc, and you still worry.
It freaks me out when I see, for instance yesterday, on the R44, coming from the Somerset Mall a child standing in the back of a white Golf, between the driver and passenger seats - how stupid and reckless and utterly selfish the mother of this child is. I do assessments for and against plaintiffs for the road accident fund, and the trauma I see from accidents has made me secure my grand daughter snug as a bug and be very strict, in her car seat.
My youngest son was mugged on the N2 yesterday after stopping to change a flat tyre. My heart skipped a few beats when he told me. I was grateful that they did not harm him.
So, when your children are small, you worry about them, protect them, watch what they are doing, when, how, where, and you can prevent harm coming to them to some extent. As they get older, things change and you are no longer able to hold their hand across the street, drive them to uni, or wherever else they are going. They are out there in harms way, in predators way. The incident yesterday was deliberate. Spikes were thrown into the road at different intervals, during a quieter time on the N2. My son and his friends saw another couple of cars pulled over with flats.
When your kids get married, you worry about their job status, their ability to support and care for their families, their safety to and from their own homes. They don't live with you, so you don't know if they went out, where they went, did they get there okay? Although they are old enough, and you know that you have taught them all the survival skills, as a mom you need to know your kids are safe and happy.
So to the parents out there that would let their children stand up in the car, you may lead your child to a life of brain damage, trauma, depression and handicap. Why would you put your perfectly formed and developing child in such a path? Do you not love them? Or are you just too darned lazy to discipline your child and teach them basic manners, etiquette and safety? One day, your child will not be under your control, you send them out into the big wide world and you hope you have taught them enough about safety - such as 'your belongings are not worth your life'. Let them have it, and spare your life. Keep your cool. Keep your eyes on your 'attackers', note they way they are dressed and anything that is out of the ordinary like scars, marks, etc.
The older your children get, the more you worry. Teach them the skills they need to survive, be happy and good people, and which they can pass down to their children.Susan