My baby routine theory
'A mother who leaves her baby crying because she's "getting baby into a routine" is shocking!'
You're wrong about...claiming that it's justifiable because of the 'routine' you insist upon, to let your baby cry and not to pick it up. Everyone says that it's hell for the first few nights but then it's ok, so "Do not let yourself give in or the baby will learn that if it cries incessently when it's bed time, you'll come running..Baby will eventually go to sleep and realize that crying won't help and it is easier from there..!"
Bulls**t! Sure regular hours that are a basis for your routine & schedule are helpful, but a mother who leaves her baby crying because she's "getting baby into a routine" is shocking! Every single child that I have seen mothers get into their precious 'routine' has landed up at speech therapists once baby begins to talk because they are slow to communicate.
Why? My theory is this:
Babies can't talk so they make sounds of which crying is one. When left alone crying for a period of time, baby is insecure, uncertain, vulnerable & defenseless and it knows it, so obviously it's going to need to be reassured that mom is closeby to protect and comfort it, which is what any good mother should do!
Leaving baby crying without a response makes me think that when it's time to talk, baby probably thinks 'Well when I cried for ages u didn't come so now I'm not wasting my breath cos you've proven that it doesn't really matter if I make a noise or not-it doesn't always get your attention..!'
I'm not a Dr. But this is my theory and I'm sticking to it!!