This mother believes that in order to be a happy mom who works, planning and routine is key!
I read your article on news 24 & I feel exactly the same as you & I am glad to know there are other parents experiencing the same feelings as me.
I have a 5 month old baby girl & I am working full time. During the day she stays with a nanny/domestic, I thank God every day for providing me with a woman that I can trust with my child. Currently I pump milk out at work, which she drinks the following day & in the evenings & weekends I breastfeed, which is such a blessing.
Going back to work was one of the most difficult things I have had to do in my life, but one gets used to it after a while with help from above.
I am still looking for a half day position, but a well paying one is very scarce, therefore me & my husband decided that although we can afford to have me stay at home, the extra income would definately help maintaining our current lifestyle.
I can honestly tell you, that I share your feeling of guilt for being away from my baby girl, but also appreciate getting out & interacting with other adults.
I have realised that the key to being a happy working mother is pure planning & routine. That way you and your child know what to expect.
You learn not take take the time you have with your child for granted, and focus on quality time, instead of the quantity of time spent.
Bath time is a very special time in our house & I spend the time to give my little girl extra love & attention. This helps me to get through the next day without seeing her.
I think in todays times not many woman can afford to be a stay at home mom, and not all people are lucky enough to have a succsessfull business to run from home.
I also sometimes think you actually spend less time with your children working from home, as there is no worse boss to work for than yourself.
I just wish that companies would be more leniant towards mothers with babies/children with regards to flexi-hours.
I have friends who do not have children & I am sure they think we overdo things with our child, by taking her long with us to every occasion, but we try to spend every free chance we have with her. Those people will understand the day they have their own kids.
Children is lots of work & you have to make lots of sacrifices, however if I had to do it over again, I would not change a thing!
It is the biggest blessing anyone can EVER receive!