Susan contemplates shaking things up and changing South African maternity benefit laws all for her regular 'Finn fix'.
Okay, the popping out at lunchtime for my Finn fix is no longer
cutting it. We're going to have to lobby. What seemed like a throwaway
comment of support made by Roxi last week suddenly seems like the only
We have to get the maternity benefits in South Africa
changed. Did you know that in the UK, women returning to work after
their maternity leave have the legal right to negotiate flexible
working conditions such as working part-time, or partly from home?
That’s by law folks. I don't even want to mention the maternity
policies in certain Scandinavian countries where the norm is up to two
years of paid maternity leave. Can you imagine?
What these countries know that ours doesn't seem to, is that
future generations need their mommies! It seems we've got a bit of
catching up to do. So now we just have to find a lawyer who's prepared
to take our case to court for free. Any takers?
Besides the very real need to spend more time with The Bug, I
have another pressing concern about why Roxi and I should not both be
at work all day. When we arrive home we both launch ourselves at Finn.
'I'll hold him, darling,' I chirp elbowing Roxi out the way. 'No, no,
you're tired,' she replies, 'I'll take him.' One of us usually backs
off, hovering in the background awaiting their turn. There's just so
little quality time left between us getting home and Finn having a
meltdown before he's swiftly put to bed, that we want to bond bond bond
with our baby boy when we get the chance.
The Finn fix
Finn receives us warmly. He usually lies on his back beaming from one to the other, as if to say, 'Welcome home fans!'
You'd think that being lesbians we would somehow be immune to
producing a man who expects women to dote on him. And yet I fear that
if we both continue to work full-time, we're going to wreck him with
our continual adoration when we are with him. Of course, it's not
really our fault. It's hard not to be obsessed with the cutest craziest
baby alive (no bias of course).
Finn spends an enormous part of his awake time trying to
fling his head back to view the world upside down. The upside-down
world is the best, you can tell, because it elicits such gurgles and
shrieks of delight. In the mornings, you'll find him wedged into the
corner of his cot trying to stuff both his Babysense blanket and his
sleeping bunny into his mouth. There is a madness about him that is
refreshing and addictive to be around.
Now I've just got to figure out how to be around it more than I presently am.
Are you also craving a fix of your baby while you are at
work? Share with us your tricks for spending that extra time with your