Posted by: Ingrid on 09 February 2010
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I am 49 years of age. I greet my brother with a kiss. I have kissed my father upon greeting and saying good bye my whole life. I have no ill intentions with my brother or children and am sure that my father never had any towards my brother, sister or me. I agree that there are some sick people in todays society and we should be careful. Should all interaction between parents and children be stopped because of the insecurities and wrong doings of a small (Maybe) group of people.
I think it is great as long as the father and child is both comfortable with it.
I have kissed my father hello and goodbye all my life (I'm now 34), and so has my brother and sister.
My husband does not kiss his father, and they're both ok with it. But my husband kiss our boys (10 and 8).
One thing though: you should never force kids to kiss if they don't want to. If they would rather shake hands than kiss the relatives, it's up to them. They have a much stronger feel that what feels right and what feels wrong, where we as adults tend to rather worry about hurting people's feelings.
i have a very dear friend who at 38 still kisses his dad upon greeting - they have a great relationship and i see nothing wrong with this
I agree with your sentiment BDP. I'm a grown up man with 3 boys ranging from 12 to 2. I've also always kissed my dad and my sons know no other way to greet me. It is a bond we have. And my sons are not shy to do so even infront of their friends. In fact I think that some of their friends wished they shared this bond with their fathers.
I gues some people on this forum will find this appalling but no man can tell another how to love his sons.
why does everything have to be perversed? it's a father & son for goodness sake. just because they are openly affectionate, doesn't mean the father is a paedophile!! a friend of mine from school is 30 this year & still kisses his dad hello & goodbye everytime he sees him- as far as i am concerned it take a man to be able to express emotion & love like that. people need to get over themselves!!!
My father died in 1986 ,I was 24 then and gave him a goodnight kiss the night before.I challenge any person anywhere to fault me or my dad.It was a father and son kiss ,of love for my father ,my superman ,my hero and my best friend.You only have one father ,one man that would die for you even if you are wrong.He was my mother's knight in common clothes ,he had rough hands , a gentle heart ,and a wicked sense of humor.They raised 5 of us ,and although your parents might be as good as mine ,yours could never have been better.If you want to pervert this ,you are the sicko !
Of course its fine. Its a dad and his son, for goodness sakes. Why do we even need to question this issue? Its a perverted question at best. Think along purer lines Ingrid, and dont plant unwanted thoughts in the minds of others.
I'm 38 and I still greet my father and my brother (43) with a kiss. I also greet my son (5) with a kiss everyday and I say goodnight with a kiss every night. Nothing wrong with that.
I AM 55 AND MY DAD PASSED ON CHRISTMAS DAY IN 1985.I WOULD GIVE BOTH ARMS TO KISS HIM ONE MORE TIME.NOTHING WRONG WITH SHOWING LOVE FOR ANY FAMILY MEMBER.
Strokes for folks. If it works for you, go for it. It is just that, an expression of love and respect for your father or sibling. It just does not work for me. Happened to me once in my life and never again. Why Ingrid posted this question probably relates to her different upbringing/background and it does not work for her values?
Kissing family members what cud be wrong with that? It doesnt matter whether and father and son; father and daughter; mother and son; mother and daughter.
Showing affection in that way can never be wrong!
i would like to kiss my father in heaven on the his lipps and feet whet i meet up with him one day
I think it is a wonderful gesture. A sign of a precious, healthy, loving and respectful relationship.
Jeez, stop it already I'm nearly in tears here Theo and Mack. You guys are truly blessed with the greatest wealth of all, love.I think it is awesome to see the love that exists in some families still and their is nothing weird about kissing your dad or your son as long as you're both okay with it.
Nothing wrong with that. I think its a cultural thing, in some cultures it is accepted and others not. For example, we are of middle eastern origin and males kissing each others cheeks are a sign of love and respect. I still kiss my boet, my dad and grand-dad and they all kiss me but it looks odd to people who come from a culture that does not practise kissing between male family members.
I have a son 16 yrs old, he is my best friend, we greet each other with a kiss every day, i would not want to change the bond we have for anything, it is a bond that starts when the child is born.
The world is so sick why do they always have to find fault with everything my son is 24 came home this morning after 7 months as they stay far and there is no way that as a Dad a mere hug would do it for us we did both, we live in a sick world with perverse thinking and a lot of people see the wrong in everything, they are so messed up they no longer knows what healthy family life looks like, and by the way I kissed my elderly father all my life.
a stupid article, with no essence. What is wrong with you people. Do you have to think like paedophiles all the time. What is wrong with kissing your son on lips. Even if he is kissed on the ass is none of anyones business. Does everything have to be perved. sick people. It is a relationship between a father and son and has got nothing to do with you pricks. People like you create a sick society, whereby people are uncomfortable in public showing affection towards their loved ones.
Of course it is allowed! I am 29 and still kiss my dad when we say hello and goodbye. Jeez.
Maybe when he is still 6, but 13? No I'd say that was inappropriate. The question is why would you want to kiss a young man on the lips? A hug, a good slap on the back and a soft punch to the arm is good enough between two men. Maybe, at the extreme a kiss to the cheek.
I am 34 years of age and i still greet my dad with a kiss when we meet. Nothing wrong with it...
nooooooit thats sif man
man should never kiss under no condition especially kids older than 5 years.
the problem is tat humans r generally unstable creatures psychologically. u kiss a kid then one day a switch flips, like adam and ev and they discover its doable.
every human experiences crazy imaginations and thoughts often, the fear of the unknown restrains us.
that barrier should never be tempered with
I'm 46 years old. My dad passed away on the 25th of January. He was 70 years old. We always greeted each other with a kiss, which was always special to me. My son however, do not like it, but he kissed his grandfather. My son stopped kissing me, a long time ago, and I also respect that. So it all depends on our culture and own preferences if you going to kiss or not.
Why is it acceptable for a woman to kiss another woman on the lips. Disregards the ages. but as soon as it comes to a father showing his love for his boy child, the child he also helped raise and are now forbidden to kiss his son. The world must stop living in a Hollywood style world. I am a father and if I had a boy, I would show him that I love him and that kissing his father, his own blood, is OK. Now I ask you people. Would you kiss Jesus (God) on the lips if he comes again to show your love for him?
I am 43 and have kissed my father, his brother my brother aswell as my mothers brothers for as long as I can remember. Nothing wrong with it and will continue until the end. I have 2 daughters which think it is great that there is so much respect shown in our family. There freinds who do not know this way also feel the same way.
I have 4 grown up sons and we have always greeted each other with a kiss if we have been apart for a few days. It is the most natural thing and a reflection of our strong family bonds.
This has been an eye opener. My dad was never around and when he was, it was physical abuse (beatings). I have not spoken to him in over 20 years. The thing is, my son is 10 months.............The reason I don't kiss him on the lips now is because I get a mouth full of GOB and sour milk.
Jesus H Christ!!! You people have serious issues. I'm 31 and give my old man a kiss when I see him. He's my father FFS, if you don't wanna, then fine, but I've got no problem giving my toppie a kiss. Some of you people need help.
Wow - very unexpected responses. Is everyone clear that the kiss refers to on the lips? not the cheek? if yes, well I guess different strokes for different folks. I personally would find it strange to see any adults not in a relationship kissing each other on the lips...but yes, it comes down to what's comfortable for you not what everyone else thinks..great to see some obviously loving dads btw..
I'm 53, my father is 85, and we still kiss when greeting. Anyone who has a problem with that can go jump in a lake, the deeper and colder the better.
Lots of pro kissing judging comments which is all good - each to his own...personally I have never gonr near my dads lips, barely hugged, greating is always dont with a stern handshake...will I kiss my son? time will telll, but I would certainly look to show more affection than my dad and I show each other.
I am 27.
Still give my dad a kiss when we have not seen each other for a while. Its how we roll. I give my uncle who stays far away a kiss when we see each other once in a blue moon.
It all comes down to you traditions. Hopefull, no open mouth kisses. But hell, im sure there are people who think thats cool too. Good for them.
I think people need their heads checked. Since when is kissing a parent a issue. My parents are divorced and remarried (Happened when I was 3) to this day (I am 28 now) I still kiss my real mom and father as well as my step mom and step father on the lips. They have all cared for me as if I was their own flesh and blood.
I agree totally! We are 4 brothers, 39, 36, 30 (myself) and 24. we have and will kiss our father on the lips, for as long as we can.
I grew up in a very Afrikaans community on the "platteland". There, to this day, people would frown if you don't kiss your father or brother(s) with a peck on the lips! I still kiss my dad & brother, do the same with my 6 year old son.
I'm 39, grew up kissing my dad when arriving and leaving.People like to make a fuss over nothing.
@ sane - I was going to insult you further, but I guess that is surely not required. You must be the uncle Terrance and Philip sing about in that song: "Uncle fucker"?
as long as the dad don't slip the boy some tongue - it should be fine... but seriously, it depends on the relationship and what each person is comfortable with. For some its a hug, for others its a kiss...
For once a response where the goodness of love prevails above all else. A fantastic response is shown here by those who know true love.
Michael, 2/9/2010 4:07 PM Please do not use the Lord's name like that. Sis.
Cannot believe this is an issue. It will feel like a business deal if I have to shake my dads hand. The next thing you know someone calls the police and throws your dad in jail because he kissed you...stupid world
I'm 41.I kissed my dad since I saw the light of day.I kiss my 3 brothers since they were babies who are now 39,37 and 30.My dad kisses his 3 brothers who are all over their 60's and so do my uncles kisses their sons. This is a deep rooted family tradition and I kiss my 18 year old son since he came into this world.He is comfortable with it and don't feel the slightest embarrased when I kiss him in public when we say our goodbyes and hello's. I don't give a sh%t what people think. It was part of my upbringing and I will not change that for any sick mind in this world who think it's wrong.
I don't believe the word is so sick to have an issue about kissing your own son, or you father. Happy to see the response is positive. Kiss your son, or father, show affection !!! he is your own flesh and blood, no matter the age!!!!!!
it is the most beatiful and natural thing in the world. but very much cultural. i now live in the uk and most people here think it is strange to kiss on the lips. even if it is opposite sex.
this is absurd i am 21 and i have been kissing BOTH my parents on the lips for my whole life.... granted when i was in school my buddies thought this strange as i am yet to see them show any affection towards there parents in front of company.... yes again we are a very close family and if a boy at the age of 13 still wants to kiss his father on his lips so what name one father that would NOT actually want to give there son a kiss.... as the article said there are bounderies and it is up to the child and parents to deside not a bunch of people that dont know anything
This political, social and emotional correctness being forced on us by the powers that be including the press, will at the end be the end of us all. Were missing the bigger picture on whats happening here.
41. Grew up shaking my dad's hand. I kiss my son (9) and i tell him i love him also!
My daughters are 20, 10 and my son 14. I kiss them all on the lips, whats the problem? they are my kids, they do it because we love one another. STOP trying to turn this into a sexual thing, maybe you see it like that, but as a father...I love my children and wont stop doing it for your sake or anyones else's. You are making it into a PERVERTED thing
I am now 28 years old, i still tell my dad i love him!
I kiss him upon greeting and saying goodbye. You never know when it will be you last time you see your Dad!
It's okay as long as everyone is okay with it.
I'm with 'MACK THE FATHER ,WAS A SON ONCE'. I'm 39 and still kiss my father and brother. I can't even think of never kissing my six year old son, he is my everything and I hope to be his. If you see evil in everything you will find it.
I used to kiss my dad on the lips until he died.
He was 72, I was 35.
Nothing wrong with it.
I am 56 and my two sons are 33 and 31. Both of the exceptional successfull in their professions. Both of them played Provincial cricket and rugby at school level. They are outstanding hunters and marksman, because they grew up on a farm in the Northern Cape. Since they were babies until today we kiss each other to say hallo or goodbye. I see nothing wrong with that cause i think there is a special bond between us. As matter of fact we only see each other once a year due to our work and living situations. It is also not only a bond between us but also an emotional feeling that cant be described. But to see it as an insult or as a "daddys boy " situation is wrong.
I'm 28, I last kissed my father on the lips when I was 27 (last time I saw him). He is my father, I don't give a flying fig what some random's opinion of it is; it's none of their business. Of course it's okay.
Is it ok for my 22 year old son to be hugging his dad all the time. Right after he takes a shower while still in his towel he hugs him. He has to touch him when he gives me a hug. After he goes to the store he runs in and hugs his dad. He does this too his sister, but he grabs her by the waste. Also if his sister is sitting on the couch he hugs her but puts his face between her legs. If she lays down on the floor to watch T.V. he lays behind her with his arms around her. I say he needs help.