Just show her some AIDS pictures and people of all races and faces that has it.

cut his balls off if its true

Discuss!? Oh please, let's see your moral opinion sway the lads desires. He'll probably fall to his knees feeling like a complete idiot for giving in to his needs, and beg your forgiveness. Are you nuts!? Discuss means he has a VALID opinion from which you differ, allowing him the complete right to reject your moral high ground! It's this kind of advice/thinking of society that got your daughter where she is. In my day it might have happened, but now its the norm, all thanks to the free thinking society of today. And that at 12!? news24 probably has nothing to do with that.

JUST GO AND BUY SOME PAMPERS THATS ALL

She is still a child, you should put a stop to it, there shouldn't even be hesitation, you're the parent and you are her guardian who has to help her make the right decisions in her life. I remember my mother took the time out to speak to me about sex and waiting until I am married and that it is a special beautiful act that must be shared between 2 people who love each other in marriage. That kept me from just sleeping around with guys because I wanted it to be the way she always told me. Not even peer pressure could get the better of me because of what my mother shared. This is a really serious situation and as her parent you have every right to confront the both of them and put a stop to this. All the Best!

This should be of major concern, because given the letter's contect, the 'boy' is probably much older. This is not good. Good luck lady.

I'm so tired of people treating kids as if they are adults. You don't reason or debate issues with a child. You are the adult/parent, you tell them exactly what you want and expect from them. No two stories about it.

I have an idea that the letter from the boy is a naive attempt to flatter his girlfriend and that the lyrics are not true of this young pair. First ask her what the letter means as you might be making it out to be something much bigger than it is.

At this stage of the game, if you decide to follow Ms De Beyer's "non-judgmental" line, I'd put her on the pill before she gets knocked up. " ... that she understands the importance and wonder of female sexuality ..." I reckon she's discovered how to use it already. "... has run many successful parenting workshops at high schools." Successful at what?

If I found that, I would find out the boy is depending on his age I'll handle it accordingly, older off to his parents, if they don't react to my satisfication, rape charges, that will scare the crap out of the kids and parents, bring them into the REAL world if they want to act like adults. These are CHILDREN..not adults, imagine if she fell pregnant at 12???!! Fact they had sex tells you that they have ZERO understanding of what they are doing so you will NEVER discuss hormones away but the fear of GOD in them will have them thinking twice...as every action has an equal REACTION....that is the problem now days, phycologists wanting to "talk/negotiate" away problems...what do kids respect, a chat or a smack....go figure.

like mother, like daughter........ teach your children discipline early and you will not suffer the consequences........ 12 year old having sex is sick and casued by disgusting parental control and.

I say, invite the boy over, or encourage your daughter to bring him over for a visit. When he gets there beat the living hell out of him.

I am shocked!!! Make an example of him! Lay criminal charges agains him, then cut his balls off!! Your daughter deserves a good talk and a moerse hiding!! I have three daughters, that is wht I would do!

It is sad that the innocence was lost so early. Be glasd that the first time was an enjoyable experience, cause that can alter your whole sex life thereafter. Discusss safe sex options and ensure that you have an open relationship with your child. They need to approach you without fear, with advice on these and other matters.

society is so degredated right now, its unbelieveable. parents allow, esp. youlng girls to dress so inappropriately, almost like adults, what are these youngsters supposed to think? its all they hear about, on TV and radio, so why is everyone complaining? we have allowed the situation to get so out of hand, that it has come to this.did we think of sex when we were 12?, no, cos we had better things to do, like play outside or do homework or read, but now they have hannah montanna and want to be like her, so what are boys supposed to think and feel? we as parents need to be harder on our kids, we dont need to beat them to death, but at least show the girls that they should atleast cover up rather than expose every bit of their bodies to get the attention of boys.look im not only blaming parent now a days, but take a walk to any mall, it really is the little ones that dress just as innappropriately as some older women. i hope my point is understood. come on lets show kids that there is more to life that short skirts, sex horrible tv and cell phones. lets spend good quality time out there with them and show them what they are worth and instill some morals and values in them.please

do what I do. my son is 11, n his sister 8 and they babysit their 23mth old little brother when I go jogging. my daughter has announced tht she will never have sex bcos she does not want to change smelly nappies ever in her life. NUFF SAID

Also remember that children at this age can rebel. That is the last thing you want to happen. If she rebels, she is going to have sex with as many partners as she can find. Approach the subject of finding the letter and its contents slowly and caringly. Never tell children what they CANNOT do, they will eventually do the opposite, in any way.

Firstly, what you do can scar your daughter's sexuality for the rest of her life. bE very careful. The problem most women have today is that they've been taught that sex, thinking about it and god forbid, enjoying it is a sin. What you have is a generation of women insecure with their bodies and bits thereof. There is nothing wrong with liking sex. As a parent it is up to you to teach your daughter to be responsible and to make INFORMED decisions. Right, talk to your daughter, raise the issue about the letter and your concerns, have a talk to get her ideas on what she thinks this all involves. If they have had sex. DO NOT GET ANGRY OR CONFRONTATIONAL at any stage or you will have caused more damage than you could think. Discuss why she wanted and what she expected, chances are while bf had earth shattering experience (all 5 seconds) she didn't. explain how the female body works and that it takes longer for women than men. By giving her the right info she can and probably will decide to have sex at a more appropriate time for the right reason instead of peer pressure. I saw an episode on Oprah where a group of mothers decided to give their teenage daughters vibrators to quell any curiosities and give them the freedom to explore their sexuality on their own terms and not in a car with some dodgy boyfriend. Boys are only interested in putting it in any hole they can find, I sure was at that age, but by having an open discussion with your daughter and hopefully getting her to become responsible will she make the right decisions. Unfortunately, short of locking her in her room until she's 25 you cannot really control what she does, whom she sees etc. THe world is nasty place and as a parent you have to prepare your daughter and other children for this. If she wants to continue being sexually active explain that she has to then start doing other adult things like work weekends and holidays. i.e. With choice comes responsibility and carefree goes out the window.