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Greg Crighton


Posted by: crystal | 2010-12-05


9 year old son not confident

My son has been kept back in Grade 1-Reason given "not confident enough". Now in Grade 3, his teachers approached us and said that he is still not confident and he does not participate so much in class. Also his handwriting is not up to scratch. But as we reviewed his books, there are some days that his handwriting is perfect. He has been referred to the school's remedial teacher for assessment. She tested him and said that his reading is perfect, but he does not comprehend what he’s reading. Also his math skills -for example he would count in two's from 96 to 106 perfectly then jumps to 105. Is there a logically explanation for him doing that? I have a problem with the fact that my son is an introverted person when it comes to being in a group as I am the same. I feel that there is too much emphasis on him being not confident enough. He definitely knows the work, because we gave him a genuine test, left him alone in the room and he finished it perfectly. I really need answers and help. Please advise.

Expert's Reply


Greg Crighton Greg Crighton
- 2011-01-18

A child's confidence at school is intricately connected to their ability to cope. If there are some difficulties with regard to school work then they need to be addressed as a matter of urgency. If you have had him assessed by a remedial therapist then you need to take the recommendations from that assessment seriously and follow up. One of the major problems with psycho-educational assessments is the lack of follow-up on the parents behalf. It sounds as though the remedial therapist identified a reading comprehension difficulty, what has been recommended with regard to an intervention? It sounds to me as though there are some inconsistencies with regard to his performance, and this needs to be investigated. I would recommend a full psycho-educational assessment by an Educational Psychologist so that you can get a detailed look at a number areas of functioning, namely cognitive, scholastic, perceptual, and emotional functioning, and only then can you develop a holistic intervention strategy to address any areas of concern. 

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