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Posted by: Ingrid | 2010/01/14

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Dad kisses his son

Is it acceptable for a father to kiss his 13 year old son on the lips?

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Anne Cawood Anne Cawood
- 2010/02/08

It is certainly acceptable for a dad to kiss a 13 year old son. However, there are some very natural boundaries that parents ought to instinctively be aware of. Kissing a 13 year old - girl or boy on the lips - could be construed as crossing a line somewhat. Also, certain intimate touches eg touching an adolescent girl on the thighs by her father, could be viewed as inappropriate. However, I am very loathe to give absolute advice here, as there are many ifs and buts that I would need to know about.

Some dads are very demonstrative and affectionate. Some boys are too. One would need to look at the type of relationship and the history of the parent-child relationship. In other words, it could be completely okay. A good rule of thumb is to look at the child's reaction. Most children will react negatively to a parent who crosses lines of what feels okay If a child feels it is not okay, he should be assertive regarding telling the parent that it is not acceptable. The best thing is not to over-react and to seek professional help if necessary.


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