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Greg Crighton


Posted by: Poonam Jain | 2012-08-24


My 12 years old daughter

Hi Greg, I have a twelve years old daughter who is not willing to go to school. This has been happening since last 2 yrs. She attends her dance classes, paints very well, wants to be a painter. She passed her 6th exams after studying from home with very good marks. We have seen some doctors and they end the issue by saying that she is in depression and needs to be put on anti-depressant. I don't think that is the case as she takes interest in all other activities and her studies if she is doing it from home. Just she doesn't want to go to the school. Every time you try to check with her the reason, she comes out with different explanations every time. Please help urgently.

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Greg Crighton Greg Crighton
- 2012-09-25

I have written extensively about school avoidance in previous responses which you can refer to, but you need to find out what is happening at school that is making her want to stay away. I would recommend you meet with the grade controller or one of her teachers with whom she has a good relationship, and see if you can find out what is happening on a daily basis in the school setting. There are many reasons for a child wanting to stay away from school, and I cannot jump to conclusions based on the information you have provided. Meet with the school, and find out about her academics, her social circles, her extra-mural activities and involvement, and try and get to the heart of the matter, because only then will you be able to put in place a plan of action to address the issues that are raised, and if this involves medication, as the doctor has suggested, then don’t be closed to that option.

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