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Anne Cawood


Posted by: Cindy | 2011-12-05


My 5 year old daughter is turning into a little monster

My 5 year old daughter has turned into a little monster. What can I do? She says no means yes and yes means no and she says and does the most horrific things for a child of her age. We have tried punishing her by putting her in her room but it doesn't help! We have tried everything. She has now started lifting her hands to hit me! What do i do? Please help!

Expert's Reply


Anne Cawood Anne Cawood
- 2012-01-12

Dear Cindy, so sorry that I have taken so long to answer your question - I have been on leave! The best advice I can give you is to be very firm with her - but try not to over-react. Stay calm - but adamant re the non-negotiable limits. Try not to be pulled into power struggles with her. If she says something like "Yes means no etc" - then just calmly reinforce what the rule is eg " The rule here is that we do not hit people. If you choose to hit me then there will be no treat after dinner" Or " We wont be able to choose a DVD this weekend". The main skill here is to show her that you mean what you say - and that you will not be drawn into any debates regarding the issue. Just simply say "I see you have chosen to miss your after-dinner treat" 0 or whatever you have said the consequence will be. Absolutely refuse to allow her to pull you into her power struggle. She will definitely get the message before too long. And then, of course, praise her for good behaviour - and giving random rewards can also be effective. "I am so pleased that you have been so helpful this week - there is a little surprise on your bed". I do hope that this helps you to cope better!

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