Carolanne Ackermann | 2011/11/17
Good day Anne, I have a question more for myself than my children. I can't seem to discipline my children as I just talk and talk and talk and they just walk over me or simply shout or back chat me so what happens I lose my cool and regret it badly instead of finding another way to deal with my kids.
Do you have any advise hear as unfortunately I am a very emotional person as well which I know it not good for my kids to see all the time.
Thank you, regards Carolanne
Hi, Sorry that I have taken so long to reply to you. The key to effective discipline is the ability to remain calm and focused.
Your children really do need to know that you mean what you say. Try to set firm, age-appropriate boundaries. At the same time make sure that the children know what the consequences will be - if they choose to push the limits. The moment you talk and talk - and then become inconsistent and easily manipulated - you will lose your ability to be effective!
I should be a case of - you make the rule or set the limit, give the children a very clear choice - and then go ahead and enforce the consequence. Use words like " You know the rule. I see that you have chosen to miss your TV programme tonight because you have not put your toys away" Then, when they try to force you to move those boundaries and give in to them - remain very firm and refuse to give in.
My book "Children Need Boundaries" could help you with these skills. Good luck.
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