Who gets your kids if you die?
If something happens to you, who do you trust with your children? Masanda Peter thinks it over.
The topic of death is not a pleasant one but one we cannot avoid especially if you are a parent. As a single mother I have made plans and preparations of what should happen with my son should the sun set before he can look after himself. I am praying to God that I have made the best decision for him and hope that the person entrusted to look after my son will try and take care of my pride to the best of her ability.The biggest prayer of all is that of asking God not to take me up until he can take care of himself.

One would wonder why I would be praying so much? Well, I have seen quite sad things happen out there when the parents die. When it comes to how the money you leave for your kids is used I am sure most parents are turning in their graves. Greed, squandering, selfishness are the order of the day.

I have seen people who squander the money left for the children to better their own lives. You must also remember that with most people are not familiar with the idea of leaving a will. When the mother dies the child(ren) will go stay with the sister who has no children, or a family member that is seen as being capable of taking care of the kids. In some cases the money will be paid to the guardian and soon afterwards you will see the guardian driving a new car or see their house being renovated using this money. The most trusted people, sisters, brothers, or uncles can turn into greedy beings.

In families where a wife dies, you will see the father getting married again to someone else; chasing the kids away and those kids will benefit nothing from what is left by the mother or vice versa. Or the mother will get a new boyfriend and spend all of that money with the new guy and the children suffer.

It’s a tough world out there and as parents we need to think hard and carefully as to who will handle these matters when we are no longer around. As a single mother it is important that I have these conversations with myself so that I can prepare for the unknown. We need to plan and - most importantly - familiarise ourselves with drafting a will so that people are not confused as to what should happen when you are not around.

We have dreams and plans for our kids and that document could be the best thing you can ever have for your child. Not taking away all trust in people or family members but the family needs to know your plans.

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