An upside to divorce?
This preschool mom will consider anything for a moment of peace.
My kids have driven me to wishing for a divorce. Let me explain, I’m an over-30-almost-40 mother of 3 kids under the age of 4, which means that I’ve had at least one toddler in the house for the last 3 years. And that, I believe, gives me the right to absolute exhaustion.
Oh, the chorus of wailing children… There’s nothing that beats the whine of a 4-year-old. Or the possessiveness of a toddler. That’s without the rough-housing that leads to tears. The ‘I want’, ‘I can’ and the ‘no, I won’t’ sometimes drives me up the wall. I dream of deleting the words ‘I’m not your friend anymore!' from my 4-year-old’s vocabulary.
Add to that a baby girl that knows the exact moment you put shampoo on your head, and seems to refuse sleeping anywhere except in her mommy’s arms. Causing a sore back and arms when trying to earn a living with a baby on the lap in front of a computer. All of this equates to no me-time for Mommy. It’s a relief to send the boys off to crèche just to get the things done that I’m supposed to do as a work-from-home-mom.
After another morning of listening to 2 little boys fight, whine and cry, waking up their baby sister just when I’ve managed to put her down, I seriously started thinking that there might just be an upside to divorce. I can just imagine packing the whole lot of them up and sending them off to spend the weekend or holiday with the other parent
Remembering those kid-free days of yesteryear makes me so nostalgic. Going to work and the little bit of housework were the only barriers to me-time. Those lovely days of starting and finishing a 500 page book in a day are gone forever, I fear. Lying in a hot tub with a glass of wine and a good book
now gets interrupted when the kids want to join me in the bubbles. Books, kids and water don’t go together.
I know I sound almost exactly like my 4-year-old whining. And I’m sure that one day when I have teenagers in the house, I will be wishing they were back at this age that I’m wishing away. Not that I can really picture it at present, but that’s what I’ve been told.
Hubby seemed quite keen on the idea of some peace and quiet as well when I mentioned this divorce idea to him. His comment that the wife usually gets custody of the kids had me reconsidering though. I don’t think I do want a divorce. Looking after the three of them on my own
? No way, it ain’t never gonna happen!
Is there really an upside to divorce?