Marlon suggests that parents shouldn’t expect to be thanked for parenting.
With Mother’s Day
looming and Father’s Day about a month away, social networks like Twitter and Facebook are awash with sweet heartfelt sentiments about mothers. People sharing how thankful
they are, others espousing the virtues of being a mother, others reminding their kids about what they did for them during their formative years and so on.
Of course it’s nice to be appreciated, even if the job at hand does not require thanks. We all like to know that our efforts
are well-received and are respected. However, I want to put it on record that in my opinion being a mother or a father does not require thanks. While many mothers and fathers may think they have a choice, and some in-fact exercise a choice of being an absentee parent; for me the “job” of being a parent is not a choice- it’s a must.
It’s your duty! No child asks to be born, and whether you were a willing participant in its creation or not cuts no ice. Once the deed is done and the stork has made its delivery, it’s show time. The show only ends 18 years later, or longer.
Taken from a purely emotionless view, your job, by virtue of the fact that you were responsible for the birth of your little beastie, is to clothe it, feed it, make it grow up into a healthy adult both in mind body and spirit. It’s your job, there’re no “ums, ifs or but’s” about it.Nevertheless, it’s still nice to feel appreciated
Where we get really luck is when we get it right as parents and our kids feel love and affection and genuine emotion to the point of wanting to thank us and express their love for us on these special days
. It really does make a difference to us doesn’t it?
It seems like such an easy thing to achieve, just to provide the basics of parenting to your children, yet so many of us fail miserably as parents just by not being there. There can be nothing worse than absent parenting and yet the resilient nature of a child is that they will flourish despite our absence. Some of them exceed the very boundaries of their circumstances to achieve great success or recognition in the world. Just imagine how much more amazing and incredible the seeds of your loins would be if you were actually present in their lives.
So my message to kids and parents over these two days of recognition (Mother’s Day and Father’s Day – in June) is, as parents, we should not forget that we don’t require thanks, it’s our duty and we have no choice but to execute that duty to the best of our ability. For kids, remember, that while we know we don’t have a choice, and we know we don’t require thanks, it makes the world of difference to know that we are doing it right and our efforts are being appreciated.
Happy Mother’s Day Moms
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