It’s up to dads to protect and set a standard for their daughters. Single dad Marlon Abraham is taking on the challenge.
It’s a well-known fact that there is usually a strong bond between mothers and their sons, but what of dads and daughters? I think it’s just as special, although it’s definitely fraught with somewhat scarier dynamics.
Most men, by the time they have kids, have developed a natural and healthy lust and respect for the female form.
The ‘bad boys’ among us may have a different perspective. They’re more than likely petrified of what will happen to your little angels when bad boys like you get your hands on them.
And like all good male, you tend to file that thought away very quickly and never call it up again. That special bond
Little girls accept their dads with warts and all, unlike many of our adult partners. And so, like the saps that we are, they soon have us wrapped around their little fingers and that special bond
Discipline becomes very stressful and usually, if you’re in a dual partner relationship, mom has to dish out the punishment.
Little girls can sense their dad’s pride and joy
, and they either develop a healthy way of manipulating that fact to get what they want or they can use it to get away with murder.
Little girls need to feel safe
The important thing we need to be aware of as fathers is that we will probably be one of the few male figures in their lives that will not have any sexual overtones included in our relationship with them.
They will never, and must never, feel that dynamic with us. All too soon they will learn that the way boys interact with girls is dominated by the fact that boys are programmed to impress, beguile, dominate and influence the female species.
They need to have an outlet of total freedom of expression from us as fathers. We have to be non-sexist, non sexual, always available, and ready to protect their very lives if need be, and they need to know that!
Any normal dad already knows this instinctively and you don’t have to read a book to learn it, it’s the way dads are supposed to be.
Dads, we also have to set the bar
very high, because they will be looking for a man like you (or better) when they start dating. Even at Hannah's tender age of 11, she is already making comparisons between me the little buggers trying to woo her at school.
Luckily I can rest easy because they don’t stand a snowflake’s chance in hell… yet.Read more by Marlon AbrahamsDo you agree with Marlon on just how important dads are to their daughters? Share with us in the comment section below. Disclaimer: The views of columnists published on Parent24 are their own and therefore do not necessarily represent the views of Parent24.