I have been a stay-at-home mom for 4 months and am still going strong. I must admit I am more tired being a stay-at-home mom than I was when I went out to work in a fulltime job and then came home to my child and the second ‘job’.
Just a few months ago I paid someone to look after my profoundly disabled daughter
, do her washing, clean her utensils and go to therapy sessions
with her. This was a real job that paid a salary and we looked upon our nanny as an employed skilled person.
I get the impression it’s looked upon as a soft option in life for a mom to do this – like you gave up on the real world by choosing the wellbeing and care of your child. Stay-at-home moms should be applauded. Maybe the government should be paying stay-at-home moms huge salaries for trying to raise well-adjusted, well-mannered, decent, moral children who will be beneficial members of society and make meaningful contributions to our beautiful country.
Admittedly not all stay-at-home moms have chosen this path willingly, circumstances may dictate that they are unemployed in the formal sector – but then again they are still working in the home. For those of us privileged enough to be able to make the choice consciously, to be able to choose our children willingly – do not make us feel guilty for what you wish you had the courage to do. Well, that’s my rant over with, back to the stay-at-home-work-from-home part. The second job
I have always worked best under pressure and it would appear to be the same working from home. I am not able to do much during the day as my daughter, Nura, takes up most of the day as she is unable to do anything for herself. So my second job (which used to be my first job) can only start at 8pm when she has gone to bed and everything has been prepared for the next day. I manage to get in a few hours of work before dreamland calls.
I work better with set deadlines and targets as flexible deadlines and hand in dates seem to float away from me. Time management is not so much an issue as is motivation and the drive to get the work done. Thus when deadlines are tight the motivation is external and I have to knuckle down. Having such hectic deadlines though means working a few hours at night is not enough, so I have to organise my mom and mom-in-law to look after Nura.
This means feeding and dressing her, packing all her nappies, emergency supplies and food for the day and then driving her to be looked after, coming back home to work and then going to fetch her again. It’s not a very efficient system. On occasion my husband has stayed home to look after Nura so that I could have more time to work during the day – again not a very efficient or long-term option.
Should the work pick up I will have to look at employing someone to help me. But at least I will be at home and can still be involved in Nura’s care. The flexibility being at home has afforded us is wonderful – I can make and change appointments and therapy sessions as it suits our schedule. I have to answer only to myself and Nura and don’t have to be as dependent on others as when I was formally employed. I always show up for work and have never called in sick and am always in a good mood to take care of Nura.
That’s me. The stay-at-home-work-from-home mom. Still relatively fresh in the game, enjoying the time with my child and keeping head above water. I’ll shout when the water level rises and I need help. Hopefully a kind soul will be there to save me.Do you think working from home the easy option?