Elton John's baby
Let's just accept that loving families can come in different guises, suggests single dad Marlon Abrahams.
Elton John, 63, and his husband David Furnish welcomed their new son into their lives this past Christmas Day, born to a surrogate mother. This after a previous attempt to adopt an HIV-positive Ukrainian baby was turned down by the Ukrainian government.

In a previous column about a 62-year-old woman giving birth, I drew the ire of many a reader who felt that the lady was well within her rights to have a kid at that age.

The reason I raise these two cases is that in the end it really doesn't matter does it? Provided of course the motives are indeed self-less and fueled by love. In Elton's case the little boy is set to live a charmed life and might even go on to inherit his massive fortune. From all reports on the issue it would appear that the happy couple are indeed the stuff that loving, nurturing parents are made of.

Of course we will have the anti-gay brigade shout from the rooftops about the 'abnormality' of the gay scenario and how it might affect the child. Well, let's be rational about it shall we? Gay kids survive straight parents all the time.

Just like single parenting, or orphaned kids, or any situation where a child is raised in anything other than what is still probably considered the 'norm', the norm for these kids is the reality of the situation they are raised in. So Elton's boy will respond to the love and nurturing of his parents and when he gets older and his sexual orientation manifests, does it really matter what that may be?

There's also the argument that the kid might be ridiculed by his peers. I wonder.

Although I did some reading and it seems the gay lifestyle is under immense pressure still, especially in certain regions of Africa. As usual the first world leads the way and hopefully we will follow soon.

Am I just being a bleeding heart liberal here? Could having gay parents have a negative impact on the upbringing of the child in question, which let's face it, just like the 62-year-old lady's kid, had no choice in the allocation of parents?

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