Ready to try again
Having decided to have a second child, Suki and her husband start the waiting game.
(Gavin Lock)

A couple of years back, when Gavin and I decided to do the baby thing, I said we’d have two kids and he said we’d have at least two. A very distinct difference, but as this was the closest we could get to an agreement at the time, we went ahead.  Midway through 2008, when Dylan was born, we experienced the joy of parenthood. But we had an agreement , therefore since the beginning of 2010, there has been a very big item on the life-list: get pregnant (again).

‘This will be easy,’ I thought. ‘I’ve done it before; all I have to do is rinse and repeat.’ So, on we got with the rinsing, but my list stayed unaltered. In May I went for a routine gynae visit when I was sat down for ‘the talk.’

‘These things can take time,’ she said, with care and concern showing on her face. I was unperturbed. I have a list.

So with a hop in my step I went for the blood tests and with a smile in my voice I answered the call from my gynae a few days later. The news was less cheery. Firstly, even after being inoculated in 2007, I was not immune to German measles. (What, jabbed in the arm for nothing?) Secondly, my thyroid was not as lively as it should be.

This couldn’t be happening to me. What about my list?

I was given a choice: keep trying, take a chance and hope for the best – or – have another German measles injection, take medication for my thyroid, wait three months and then see. I asked what friends thought about the situation, Gavin and I talked about it, and the decision was made: meds, injections and waiting.

This was three months ago.

Now I’m not that impatient, but it would seem that the closer I get to the finish line, the more fervent I become. I can happily stand in a queue with 50 people in front of me, but get to the last 3 and my foot starts tapping while I wonder if it was worth it.

So after contacting my gynae to remind her about the tests (and my list), I caught myself tossing my hair and smiling my most seductive smile at my hubbie. I’ve done what was required, I’ve waited 3 months; surely the tests are just a formality? But there was a nagging voice in my head: I’ve come so far, should I really risk it all now? After a brief moment of indecision, I packed my womanly wiles firmly back in their box and settled for a cuddle instead.

So I’ll wait. It’s just a few more days, right? But I’m keeping my eye on the prize. After all, I’ve got a list.

Are you trying to conceive? What’s on your list?

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