In response to our recent article to do with children who day dream and the effect it has on their performance at school, readers shared their stories:
Read more: Is your child a dreamer?
Just read your article. This is the exact thing I have
being experiencing with my son, since Grade 7 I use to receive complaints from
school ie "ur son is not working to his full potential", "he can
do better" & "he just needs to concentrate and focus on
school", and I thought he was just being lazy and naughty.
He was in Grade 9 last year and things were getting a bit
out of hand so I eventually took him for an assessment to an Educational
Psychologist and the results were that he as ADD/ADHD & non verbal learning
difficulty. My world came crumbling down, how could I have been so
ignorant not to have realized he was going through all this and how could I be
so clueless, what kind of mother am I.
So for 4 months I ran around like a headless chicken, did
not want to believe it, kept on questioning everything. I took him to an
Occupational Therapist, Psychiatrists, Counselling Psychologists then he was
booked at the Psychiatric Hospital for 8 days to have various tests done to
confirm whether he really had ADHD and it was confirmed again and again that he
does have concentration problems and he is weak on the non verbal language.
I guess the reason why it was so difficult to believe, is
because he is not a hyperactive child. He even told me that it can't be
true because he knows he is not hyperactive & how can all these people say
he is.. :).
But I am still trying to wrap my head around this, its so
hard to accept, he is now in Grade 10 and just started Concerta last week. So
after reading your article I'm have a sense of relief that he will be able to
pick up on school and I am looking at other alternatives like Brain Gain as I
don't want him to continuously be on Concerta.
Going to print this article for my son as well. -Sandra Govender
I definitely have
a dreamer on my hands and I agree full-heartedly with the mother in the
article. Kids are meant to be dreamers and it is part of their development and
vitally important BUT when it starts becoming a problem for the child in school
and they fall behind - it is time for action...
I wish to just add
that there is another option to medication for children or adults who battle
with concentration issues, and that is NEUROFEEDBACK.
It has to do with
the brainwaves of the individual that may be out of sync and neurofeedback can
help identify those imbalances and help the brain to correct them so that the
brain will start self-regulating and the child will be able to concentrate
better when needing to and then access their daydreaming when appropriate as
well! -Lize Maritz