Having kids doesn’t make you an
on them. Tragically, reading hundreds of parenting books or browsing a thousand childcare websites will probably only make you realise how little you know. Even if you retain all of the information (after filtering out all of the weird advice
) there will always be that wonderful moment when you, as a parent, will be shaking your head, and saying to yourself, NOW what?
And that’s if you’re lucky. The "NOW what?"
moment is frequently the tail-end of a panic attack based on feeling completely out of your depth. You’ve wandered down some uncharted territory on the parenting path, and your inner GPS is screaming: GO BACK! FLEE! RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!
Your "NOW what?"
moment could be as simple as a rash which might just be a nappy rash, but, then again, what if... or it could be as stressful as discovering your child has a learning disability
or some developmental problem, and there are a thousand differing theories about how to respond to these issues.Why the introspection?
It’s May: May Day - either a lovely holiday, or the final scream of panic as your parenting plane starts losing altitude. Maydaaaaaaaaaay!
May is also a month to express our gratitude to all the moms in our lives, alive or dead, who either parented us, or who are parenting our kids.
When you see all of your planning, reading, knowledge-collecting and support systems crashing around you, you probably think, how did I end up HERE? Half the time I still feel like a kid, scarcely responsible enough to look after myself, never mind kids of my own.
All is not lost, though. There are friends, family members and even strangers who can sometimes come up with the solutions, answers and safety nets you lack. Many of them are mothers, too. I think back and I can still hear my own mother’s wise words. She’s not around to parent me, but her parenting wisdom lives on. And now I get to use it on my kids.
We’ll be focusing on awesome moms this month, and the wonderful moments kids get to experience with them. Even though moms don’t always have the answers, kids trust that their moms will find a way through the difficult times, and, amazingly, they almost always do.
So, if you’re a mom, I hope you feel supported here. I hope that as other parents encourage, share or commiserate with you, you don’t feel quite as panicky. I hope each one of you feels appreciated and loved this Mother’s Day, May 13th. Watch out for our competitions and giveaways!
As a dad who is happy to acknowledge all of the mothers in our parenting community, I reckon moms should be cheered on for everything they do, seen and unseen. Well done, all of you supermoms out there!Why not tell us something your mom taught you that has made you a better parent? Email us and you could win a R250 Kalahari.com voucher!