"I wouldn't do a home birth again, too risky"
Despite many success stories home birth still has a lot of risks.
This morning I stumbled across a story by Ashley Martin documenting her home birth
. I was riveted and equally horrified. Birth by nature is unpredictable which is why I was never comfortable with the idea of home birth. At least at the hospital, if anything (God forbid) goes wrong there is an army of doctors there to jump in and help the situation.
Ashley wanted those beautiful photos of the perfect home birth. She hired an expensive photographer, had her midwives and doula but it was not the blissful experience she was hoping for. She felt unsupported and her concerns were swept under the carpet. Telling her to "trust birth" and "trust her body", which is great advice when you have the medical support you need when or if things go south.
Midwives and doulas are not medically equipped to deal with emergencies like Ashley Martin experienced. Like the fact that the baby was in the brow presentation, meaning that the widest part of his head was coming out of the birth canal first. The baby's head and neck are extended, the ideal way for a baby to be born is with his chin tucked in. He also had shoulder dystocia and it took them 9 minutes for them to get him out. When he was eventually born, he wasn't breathing and they had to call 911. Little Zinn ended up in the NICU of a nearby hospital.
Ashley was considered low risk but as she says you can go from low risk to high risk so quickly.
And yes, there are so many positive stories of home births but the risk is still there, and my child's life is not something I am comfortable taking risks with.
The part that stood out for me the most was this: "When trying to reach out to other moms, I get told to stop fear mongering or using scare tactics. I get banned or shunned in a community that I used to believe in and fight for.
" Well, that's just a load of crap. This is her
experience, and for anyone to make her feel bad about sharing these risks that almost cost her child's life is awful. More on different birth options:Mom live-tweets home birthNew mom takes to Twitter, Facebook and Instagram to record every step of her home birth. (Warning: Explicit images)
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