Stella's birth story: 'Written by a doula'
This calm and special c-section birth story was written by the couple's doula.
It’s been quite a week. Baby Leah, Baby Scott and Baby James all arrived within days of each other. So much for booking clients with well spaced due dates, I almost had two births on one day. All three babies are doing well, and all three births were beautiful.
It’s no secret that I'm pro natural births, and passionate about breastfeeding. Bring on all the comments and debates, I believe that women should be better prepared and empowered to make the choices that work with, rather than against, our natural bodily functions. I'm not saying that Caesars don’t have a place in birthing – of course they do. Caesars benefit high risk women and babies. And thank God for them when they are needed. I assisted in my first Caesar birth this week, and I can now speak from a place of relative authority on the merits and differences of such a birth.
Stella and Stuart had a Caesar scheduled for Monday 4 April. Their natural birthing plan changed to accommodate Baby Scott, who did not turn and was very ready to come out! I wasn't sure if the hospital would be pro a doula in theatre, but I met Stella and Stuart at Cape Town Medi Clinic at 12:30 pm on Monday. We got settled in the ward, and spent about an hour and a half chatting about Scott's birth, focussing on calm and quiet.
Stella was very nervous, but strong and confident. By 3pm, we were all heading to theatre in green scrubs. Just before her spinal block, Stella asked the theatre sister to put her music on, and suddenly I was in an episode of Grey's Anatomy! Baby Scott arrived to the sounds of Snow Patrol’s “Chasing Cars” and some subdued sobs from mom, dad and doula. The doctors chatted as if they were on a golf course, and the atmosphere was relaxed and special.
Stella and Stuart held hands and kissed each other during and after the op, and Baby Scott scored a 10/10. He weighed a healthy 3,14kg, and came out with a perfect little pixie face. Latching didn't go well initially. They struggled for two days. But once they were home, I watched Stella feed with confidence and Scott latch with ease. Stuart, one of the most confident dads I've ever seen, has mastered nappy changing and burping, so that Stella can recover from her Caesar and have some rest between feeds.
Also, thank heavens for my husband, who had to keep the home fires burning while I was off “making babies” (my toddler’s interpretation of being a doula). I love what I do.
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