From the moment you hear that your partner is pregnant, all the hopes and dreams of fatherhood start flooding in.
Nothing, no matter how old you are or how much ‘life experience’ you have, prepares you for the day that you find out that you are going to become a Dad for the very first time.
You might have planned it, or as in our case been given one helluva surprise. But the very moment your partner breaks the news to you results in - amongst a barrage of emotions - an instant loss of blood to your legs. In my case, the strong bones that have carried me upright all my life were instantly transformed into a substance similar to jelly.
Once the blood starts flowing back to your legs, an almost instant fear sets in. It's a strange experience. One minute you were working or thinking about what to do for dinner and the very next your brain is in turbo mode. Can we afford this? Am I really ready? Will I be a good Dad
However, as quickly as that fear arrived, it's gone, replaced with excitement and a paternal instinct that every first time expectant Dad doubts they have in them - I know I did.
In your mind you are already ‘baby-proofing’ your house. Before you know it you’re on one phone calling your medical aid, and on another to speak to your financial advisor, to start putting money away for their education.
During the coming months, there are many more questions that will surface and many emotions that will break even the toughest of men. But for me, the one moment that really sets the par for everything else, and that's the very first ‘I am going to be a Dad’ moment.A baby’s beating heart
‘But I already know I am going to be a Dad,’ I hear you say. Yes, you most certainly feel like that, but the actual earth-shattering, lump in your throat moment is not seeing the positives on the test results; it's not even that moment in the doctor's rooms when your partner is lying on the bed, the ultrasound scanner on her tummy and that first grainy image of your unborn child is projected onto the screen.
The most incredible and breathtaking moment is the heartbeat
Hearing that little heart beating for the very first time is like hearing the drum solo of your favourite song, only a million times better. It's the drumbeat on the soundtrack of life, and nothing prepares you for just how amazing that is.
For those few seconds everything around you fades away. The fear, the worries, the questions, everything. It's just you, Mommy and your unborn child's heart beating away.
There is so much more to experience, and yes, there is a part of me that is scared, but there is one that really amazing part, the part that’s keeping me on my toes for whatever is next.I am going to be a Dad
, and I can't wait.
When was that moment when you realised you will really be a parent?Disclaimer: The views of columnists published on Parent24 are their own and therefore do not necessarily represent the views of Parent24.