Stop being negative to new parents
Parents-to-be don't need to constantly hear how difficult parenting is.
A friend of mine is expecting her first baby and after all the congratulations were said and the hugs handed out she mentioned that she was quickly getting annoyed with all the negativity that a new mother gets. Right after
, this is probably one of the worst types of advice anyone can get.
I know that people don't mean
to be negative, they think they're helping, giving advice or preparing you for the inevitable. "Oh, your life is over
" is said with barely veiled delight, "Your time will never be yours again
" says the frazzled father, "Stock up on your sleep!
", you hear the sleep deprived mother say.
That last one was the worst for me because seriously, I wasn't sleeping through the night through pregnancy
anyway, getting up every few hours to pee.
New parents are constantly being told how hard it is, they know, trust me, they're not expecting an easy ride.
I think what new parents need most is reassurance that it's not so bad. I try not to use the phrase "bad times", I prefer difficult or challenging. Because even at the lowest point with a newborn
, I was still happy that my son was in existence. I can't label any part of the experience as bad and that's the impression you give new parents or people who are thinking about starting a family.
I'm not saying that we should paint a perfect picture that is all sunshine and roses, but make sure while you're dealing out slices of "reality" you're not downplaying the awesome side of having children. Awesome things about having kids:
A boy and his puppy nap together
Cute baby just can't stay awake
Babies don't need expensive toys
Hysterical laughing baby will make your day
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