Turning the world upside down
Our pregnant dad Richard gets a wake-up call – this baby is real!

So we are 6 1/2 months into the pregnancy and it has suddenly dawned on us that mid-October a new bundle of joy will be arriving on our doorstep and we had better start getting ready for it!

I have previously spoken about neither Monique nor I really paying much attention to the fact that she is pregnant. Obviously we are aware of our new child on the way, but life with a toddler and a busy work schedule seems to take up most of our available thinking space. Compared to the arrival of our first child, where like most couples we had tunnel vision, we are either the most relaxed expectant parents in the world or truly in deep, deep denial.

I think it’s the latter to be honest but that doesn’t mean that we haven’t had to hustle ourselves into gear.

Monique has hit the nesting phase. I remembered this from first time around and if possible it’s more evident this time. Even my sock drawer is very neatly squared away; junk has been removed from the ‘office’ (read spare room that Dad once used as his space to work) and a new cot and feeding chair has been installed. I, along with my desk and Mac, have been removed to the lounge.

We have been working very hard at finding names and thankfully seem to have made headway. After my last column I began to worry that we would never actually get to name our child straight away and that for its first few days be identified as number 2 only. Not the best way to start a life!

Scans make it real

Reality kicked in after our most recent scan. 4D pictures may not always be the most flattering to an unborn baby but it’s a hell of a wake-up call for the parents. When the face of our yet un-named, un-sexed child appear on the monitor it’s a very real way of telling you your world is about to change again.

He or she has such a similar look to its brother that I did wonder whether the doctor was just playing the same DVD from 2 years ago and trying to make a quick buck. It’s incredible what technology can do, not only in determining the health of your unborn child but delivering a very accurate look of your off spring pre-birth.

We still don’t know the sex and I still don’t know how we have managed not to find out twice in a row now. It has to be the hardest thing we have ever done as we are both very curious people; couples who do find out cannot believe we are still holding out and to be honest apply a certain amount of pressure on the issue. But we are not budging. We made it this far we may as well be in for the long haul.

With the birth getting closer I am relishing time with my son and his mother alone. While I cannot wait for the birth, there is part of me that is very protective about my son’s space in the world and wanting him to be okay through everything. After all it’s his world we are about to turn upside down as well.

When did you get that wake-up call that your baby is real and on the way soon?

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