Parenting with Ayanda Allie Paine
She is an e-News anchor, a mother of three and wife and Ayanda Allie Paine lets us into her world of parenting.
How are you finding parenting?
It’s both challenging and rewarding. If you want things to be right, you need to work hard. I’m investing love, time and patience. My son is currently learning how to smile when we take a picture of him and it is such moments that make parenting worthwhile.
At what age did you have your first child?
Having my nephew staying with me at age 22, was my first parenting experience. I was thrust into being a parent then because of some family challenges and had to take him in. Then at age 24 I had my son from my marriage.
Were your pregnancies planned?
Yes, we planned the birth of my babies. We wanted it to be at the right time even though there is no right time. We know the conditions of state hospitals in South Africa and we need to make sure that we had things like medical aid. We had to get our ducks in a row and get our finances right before starting a family
How did you choose your baby’s names?
We wanted both a Christian name and an African name for my children. I am in a mixed race marriage and my son’s name is Raphael Zanovuyo (one who brings joy). Raphael meaning “God our healer” – the one things that unites my husband and I is our faith and we believe that there is power in naming your child
. Every time you call their name you make a prophesy. The interesting thing is that my father-in-law suggested the name Raphael not knowing that we had already chosen the name for my son which confirmed that it was the right name.
I am in my last trimester of pregnancy and am expecting a baby boy and will name my son Joel (Jehovah is God) Mvuselelo (Revival). I believe that he is bringing revival in my life and I had many things happening in my life one of them being a job promotion while I am highly pregnant. I have this huge belly but doors have been opening for me.
How do you balance being a working mother?
It’s very interesting. I also had an incident on TV where I rested my head on the table unaware that I was still live on air but I was tired. I also work flexible hours and my husband works half days and we are able to balance things.
What is your discipline style?
I use time-out but I still spank my son
and it works for us. I know that some people are against smacking but we do. It is also biblical “spare the rod, spoil the child”. Children need boundaries. My husband is the one who deals with discipline (laughs)
What keeps you awake at night?
Being a newsreader can make you paranoid. You see so much of what is happening to children out there, children dying or being abused and that can make you paranoid. I realise that I do not have control over many things and I let God take control and I pray over my children.
Being in a mixed marriage, how do you handle that with your son?
He has not asked the questions yet because he is young. As a family we celebrate our differences. No race is important than the other. Yes there are tangible differences but I believe in being honest with my son when he starts asking. My son is not black or white but mixed race.
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