Young mom Tracy Engelbrecht imagines her life in 10 years time - after kids.
So where do you see yourself in 10 years time? Cripes how I hate that job-interview question. I never give the answer they seem to want.
I do remember asking it of myself though, 10 years ago on New Year’s Eve. It was a night for melodramatic reflection, if you remember.
The world being about to end, and all that.
I sat watching the millennium fireworks with my 5-year-old son
asleep on my chest. He’d tried so hard to stay awake but just couldn’t make it to midnight. He was then an only child, his little sister still almost two years away. And I wondered where I’d be, 10 years from that night. I wished I had one of those cheesy time-capsule thingies, something to capture how it felt in that moment.
A lot has happened since then – a beautiful daughter born, a book published, some ill-advised boyfriends
best left unmentioned, the evolution of a few new chins. A decade lived so fast I wonder why I didn’t notice it passing; I think I must have been busy. And so here we are in 2010.
Now I have a whole lot more grey hairs (found a huge colony this morning, think they’ve been breeding, the sneaky buggers), a daughter who can read her own bedtime stories and a son who is stretching the limits of normal human shoe size.
And I realise that in another 10 years, my run as full-time active-duty mom will be over. Once I’m over the shock, it becomes an intriguing thought. When you’re right in the middle of it, up to your ears in birth plans, nappies and homework, you can’t imagine a day when it will be different.
When 2020 rolls round, I’ll be 41. Still a spring chicken
by all accounts, really. There are plenty of women who are only just beginning their parenting stint at this age. I’ll have a son of 25 and a daughter of 18, and way too much time on my hands. I don’t see myself taking up scrapbooking or decoupage. Or cats, heaven forbid. Perhaps I’ll travel the world or write some more books while I wait for the grandchildren to start turning up.
There’s never a one-size-fits-all perfect time for having children; I believe that however you do it is perfect for you. I know that many people would disapprove of my back-to-front life, but from where I’m sitting, it feels just right. So, in 10 years time I’ll be looking back on a lifetime of love, sacrifice and togetherness, while looking forward to many years of freedom and whatever-the-heck-I-like.
Even with extra chins, it sounds like fun.Where do you see yourself and your family in 10 years time?