Are mums taken for granted?
Training your kids to appreciate you now!
Recently I was shocked to realise that there were times in my youth when I took my mum for granted. Don’t get me wrong, I loved my mum (and still do) but there were times when I did not always show her my gratitude for all the sacrifice's she’s made.
I took her for granted by assuming that she’ll always be there for me and by getting too used to the sacrifices she made to make my life as comfortable as possible. to the extent of taking them for granted. I wish I’d said ‘Thank you’ more often.

All work, no rewards

I’ve heard mothers complain that they are taken for granted by their children, partners and other family members. Some mothers complain that their love and effort is hardly ever reciprocated. For years all they do is give and give and give. One mother confessed that she feels unrewarded for all their efforts.

Family members assume that Mum does not mind doing the dishes, the laundry, and cleaning the house because they’ve grown up seeing Mum doing everything.  They may assume that just the way things should be and they take her efforts for granted.

Why do some children take their parents for granted?

Start with chores

I think it boils down to training. Mothers should train their children from a young age not to take them for granted. There’s no reason why a four-year-old shouldn’t be taught how to pack toys after playing with them or a 8 year make her bed. Why shouldn’t ten- year-olds clean their rooms? Why is that teen-aged boy not on the duty roster for cleaning dishes?  Why should mummy do everything?

“Wow! I never realized how much she does!”

I feel the more children are gently introduced to the world of work the sooner they will take responsibility for their actions in the home. Once children appreciate that it takes effort to keep a house clean then they are more likely to help mummy keep the house clean and less likely to take Mummy’s efforts for granted.

The more Mummy does everything and the kids do nothing, the more she’s likely to feel taken for granted.

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