Dads vs in-laws
Survey reports dads are less happy when kids spend time with extended family.
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My husband loves his mother-in-law.  Often more than once a week I'll hear the familiar phrase, "Let's go to your mom tonight." And lately, now that the cold weather's set in and I'm still a new wife yet, "Let's go to your mom.  Maybe she's made soup."

Not only does he love my mom, my incredible companion adores my bevy of beautifully talented aunts who are involved in everything I do since the wedding up to buying bedding.

Yes.  Life's good now and it's likely that when we have children – that won't change. Mom does live just down the road after all.

Sound like a fairytale?  Apparently it is.  According to the Parent24 survey 2009 it's possible that all those bad mother-in-law jokes may be true for most men.

The survey, reflecting the views of 7 million South African parents, showed that "Women are most likely to rate preschoolers who spend all day with extended family as very happy (68%) followed by those in split-care.

But here's the thing: by contrast male parents of pre-schoolers are most likely to rate those at home all day with parent as very happy (99%) followed by those at home with a nanny (83%). Least likely pre-schoolers to be rated as very happy by their male parents are those who spend all day with extended family (21%)."

This begs the question: what do men have against extended family?  Is the statistic talking about in-laws? Or is it just making the case that men prefer at home parenting for kids?

What do you think?

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